<body><div><figure><img src="https://img.particlenews.com/image.php?type=thumbnail_580x000&amp;url=206XNZ_0vaWv1tb00" alt="https://img.particlenews.com/image.php?url=206XNZ_0vaWv1tb00" width="980" height="653" ><figcaption>Lauryn Schaffner</figcaption></figure>If <a href="https://loudwire.com/tags/dave-grohl/">Dave Grohl</a>'s infidelity has shown us anything, it's that parasocial relationships with musicians are toxic and that we as fans often set unrealistic expectations of them.The rock world was shocked when the <a href="https://loudwire.com/tags/foo-fighters/">Foo Fighters</a> frontman released a statement in September <a href="https://loudwire.com/dave-grohl-baby-2024/">announcing the birth of a newborn daughter</a> outside of his marriage."I plan to be a loving and supportive parent to her. I love my wife and my children, and I am doing everything I can to regain their trust and earn their forgiveness. We're grateful for your consideration toward all the children involved, as we move forward together," he wrote.The identities of both the mother and the daughter haven't been disclosed, though someone shared a social media post of a baby that went viral because the individual claimed that it was Grohl's daughter. A rep on behalf of the rocker <a href="https://loudwire.com/dave-grohl-denies-baby-viral-social-media-post/">denied that that particular baby was his</a>.And that's just part of the problem.Below, we break down how fans reacted to Grohl's news, what we need to remember about musicians and celebrities, what other rumors have come out about Grohl's relationships and how parasocial connections can be dangerous.<h2>How Fans Reacted to Grohl's News</h2>As with any big news in the rock world, there was a mixed bag of reactions, except this news extended beyond the scope of the rock world. People shared memes and jokes online, others expressed shock and disappointment in a humorous way and the rest seemed outright distraught and disgusted.The overwhelming majority of reactions shared a similar sentiment, though — that it was personal to them."Why do I feel personally betrayed by Dave Grohl," one person wrote."Have never felt deeper parasocial betrayal than Dave Grohl cheating on his wife," another fan wrote.<h2>What Is a Parasocial Relationship?</h2><a href="https://www.findapsychologist.org/parasocial-relationships-the-nature-of-celebrity-fascinations/">Find a Psychologist</a> defines parasocial relationships as "one-sided relationships, where one person extends emotional energy, interest and time and the other party, the persona, is completely unaware of the other’s existence."Parasocial relationships are typically formed by fans of celebrities, whether they're actors, athletes, musicians or even bloggers and influencers. People maintain parasocial relationships by keeping up to date with the individual's social media platforms and other websites that provide news and updates about them.The <a href="https://www.resiliencelab.us/thought-lab/parasocial-relationships#:~:text=Parasocial%20relationships%20are%20one%2Dsided,unaware%20of%20the%20other's%20existence.">Resilience Lab</a> further elaborates on the different types of parasocial relationships, claiming that there are three categories:<ul><li>The first, referred to as "entertainment-social," are more casual and for entertainment purposes only.</li><li>The second, "intense-personal," involve a deeper connection that can start to impact the fan's personal life.</li><li>And, finally, the "borderline-pathological" — extreme parasocial relationships that can lead to stalking, violence and other forms of aggression.</li></ul><h2>Grohl's Image as 'The Nicest Guy in Rock'</h2>Many other fan reactions suggested that Grohl was supposed to be the "nicest guy in rock," insinuating that because of his charity work and typically welcoming personality with fans, that he isn't capable of committing adultery.<h2>What We Need to Remember</h2>Rock stars and other public figures are humans, just like the rest of us. They need oxygen, sleep, food and water to survive. They contract illnesses and some battle with mental health struggles. Many of them have close family members and friends.As music fans, we unconsciously tend to place our favorite musicians on pedestals and have unrealistic expectations of them. Therefore, the disappointment hits harder for some fans when the musician does or says something we may see as morally incorrect, even if we don't know the whole situation at hand.And we generally don't. These individuals aren't required to share every detail of their personal lives so that fans can have closure over what happened. We don't know the reason Grohl chose to publicly disclose his affair and newborn daughter and we don't know any other details about his relationship with the mother of the baby or his wife.All we know is what he wrote in the statement.<h2>What We Do Know About Grohl's Relationships</h2>Now that we've gotten some fans reactions and important reminders out of the way, we can get into the details of what we do know about Grohl's romantic life.The rocker was first married to Jennifer Youngblood, but the couple divorced in 1997 after he admitted to being unfaithful to her [via <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/music/2007/sep/14/popandrock.foofighters">The Guardian</a>]. Thus, his recent affair was not his first.Grohl married Jordyn Blum in 2003 and they have three daughters together — Violet (18), Harper (15) and Ophelia (10).A new report by <a href="https://people.com/dave-grohl-wife-jordyn-blum-shocked-baby-news-inside-marriage-exclusive-8713365">People</a> states that individuals within Grohl's inner circle apparently weren't surprised when he announced he had a newborn daughter earlier this month."Dave's flirty behavior has been a hurdle in their marriage. It's been hurtful to Jordyn," a friend of Blum said, though they noted that she was still shocked when she learned of the baby.“We keep reading over and over again how heartbroken everyone is because Dave was supposed to be the ‘good guy,' the rockstar that didn’t have to do those rockstar things," another source admitted. "And people are crazy about the guy, but there is a rockstar side."<h2>Other Rumors About Grohl</h2>A source told <a href="https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-13848155/dave-grohl-wife-jordyn-blum-christopher-crabb-flirting-tennis-baby.html">Daily Mail</a> that Grohl was reportedly jealous of Blum's "hot" tennis coach, Christopher Crabb, and claims that he accused her of flirting with Crabb before he shared the news of his newborn daughter."Dave Grohl has been jealous for ages about Jordyn’s hot tennis coach," the source shared. "They’ve had arguments about him, and Dave thinks they’ve flirted. Jordyn has told him he’s crazy to even think that. But Dave has persisted."Another report by <a href="https://nypost.com/2024/09/12/us-news/dave-grohls-relationship-with-alt-porn-godess-questioned/?_gl=1*s1xkcs*_ga*ODAzMDM4MDIxLjE3MjY1OTMxMjI.*_ga_0DZ7LHF5PZ*MTcyNjYwMjc3My4yLjAuMTcyNjYwMjc3My42MC4wLjA.">The New York Post</a> claims that Grohl had a relationship with a 40-year-old woman named Annaliese Neilsen, who ran a porn website in Los Angeles. Neilsen's roommate, Tyler Ammons, recalled being shocked after finding Grohl on their shared living room couch in 2018."It was very weird. They were very close on the couch. I obviously knew who he was when I walked in," Ammons described. “I felt uncomfortable knowing he has family and children and I left."Ammons alleged that the relationship between Neilsen and Grohl continued into at least 2019 and that she went on tour with him and Foo Fighters around that time. However, she denied having an affair with the rock star."That is a person who I had a brief friendship with who I know through friends of friends," Neilsen told The Post. “I have nothing to say except for that is absolutely false.”<h2>This Highlights a Bigger Problem in the Entertainment World</h2>As we stated earlier, musicians and celebrities are just people, and people sometimes make mistakes. What happens between Grohl and Blum and their family as a result of his recent news is their business, not ours.Social media has given everyone a platform and the ability to voice their opinions, so anytime anything happens, we have access to countless perspectives and criticisms.But is it fair to expect celebrities, or anyone with a "following," to do and say the right thing all the time?Sure, these individuals may have some influence on a group of people. But to ask them to constantly comment on the happenings of the world, be a model citizen and be perfect all of the time, apologize for every mishap that was dug up from their past and share every detail of their lives that fans feel they're entitled to know seems like it may be crossing the line a bit.In many cases, it doesn't feel like art is just being appreciated as art anymore. There is a deeper level to everything. Musicians and bands are condemned for collaborating and touring with other artists that may have different views and beliefs from them. Rock stars feel the need to make <a href="https://loudwire.com/black-veil-brides-andy-biersack-defends-decision-tour-falling-in-reverse/">statements on why they chose to tour with another group</a>, even if it is very obviously beneficial for their career.Some younger artists are even stepping away from social media altogether as a result of how intrusive it can become — such as <a href="https://loudwire.com/tags/bad-omens/">Bad Omens</a>' <a href="https://loudwire.com/tags/noah-sebastian">Noah Sebastian</a>, who deactivated his personal accounts last December.“I got really tired of seeing my own face, or seeing a stranger’s opinion of me every day. I don’t think that’s healthy. I’ve seen these accounts that collect baby pictures of me they find on a distant relative’s Facebook and make an entire shrine out of them," the frontman said during an interview with <a href="https://www.loudersound.com/news/bad-omens-noah-social-media">Metal Hammer</a>.Chappell Roan is an example of a young musician with an even bigger platform (as she is part of the pop world) who's addressed the invasive behavior of some fans.“I don’t care that abuse and harassment, stalking, whatever, is a normal thing to do to people who are famous or a little famous,” <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@chappellroan/video/7404957266853645611?lang=en">she said in a TikTok video</a>. "I don't care that this type of behavior comes along with the job, the career field I've chosen.""It's weird how people think that you know a person just because you see them online or you listen to the art they make. That's fucking weird," she continued. "I'm allowed to say no to creepy behavior."If fans are going to make the argument that art cannot be separated from the artist, then fans need to accept that artists are just normal humans with normal emotions — and are allowed to have normal boundaries.</div></body>

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Dave Grohl Infidelity Exposes the Toxicity of Parasocial Relationships + Expectations of Rock Stars

If Dave Grohl's infidelity has shown us anything, it's that parasocial relationships with musicians are toxic and that we as fans often set unrealistic expectations of them. The rock world was shocked when the Foo Fighters frontman released a statement in September announcing the birth of a newborn daughter outside of his marriage.