19 Wild Moments That Revealed A Couple Would NOT Last After The Wedding, According To Former Bridesmaids And Groomsmen

We recently asked former bridesmaids and groomsmen of the BuzzFeed Community to tell us the moment they realized their friend made the wrong choice and shouldn't have gotten married. Here are the shocking results:

1. "When the bride started dirty dancing and humping her male friend on the dance floor. They disappeared for an hour and came back, and she continued dancing with him. The next day at the brunch, she was not present; the groom's mother let us know they already split up. The divorce was final the following month."

"He is now married to a wonderful wife and has three beautiful children."

— sweetturtle193

2. "I was sitting on the steps of the stage with her groom just chatting and waiting for practice to start, when another bridesmaid slowly came trickling in. He whispered to me that he was very attracted to her and didn't know if he was making the right decision. I was so shocked and dumbfounded and wished I would've told my friend/the bride, but I didn't. I kept it secret."

"They've now been separated for years."

— sleepingminion78

3. "I have two: One where the groom gave a speech and didn't say a single word about his new wife. It was just, 'Uh...Thanks, everyone for coming.' Had another friend whose fiancé made a stink about having to dance at the ceremony. Their first dance lasted about 30 seconds before the DJ invited everyone else out onto the floor to 'end the groom's suffering.'"

— jennifern44d6a36a7

4. "I called their house, and he told me she would probably never be smart enough for him. I didn't tell her. They got divorced about 10 years later."

—52, USA

5. "There were huge red flags at my sister's rehearsal dinner and wedding. The groom left the church with his mother and sister after the rehearsal without her. We got to the restaurant after she discovered they had already got there, and his family had ordered food without us and then left early. Then he decided to have one last 'hoorah' in downtown Chicago with his groomsmen, so naturally, he showed up still drunk to the wedding that next day."

"At the reception, I watched him drag my poor sister around to meet everyone instead of them coming up to give the bride and groom their congratulations — and she had just told him after the walk-in how bad her feet hurt. He also got incredibly drunk at the reception. He flipped a switch that weekend. We were all confused and super worried for her. She filed for divorce a couple of years later. She said she should have just called off the wedding the day of, but was worried about our parents who used some of their savings to pay for her dress and wedding 😢."

— bluepunk888

6. "Out of seven, I've witnessed two marriages crumble. But I knew [they would] while they were dating, just after getting to know those two people. I can't really put my finger on either one. It's just knowing those two people my friends were dating weren't 'the ones.' Maybe they should've each dated each other — my friends and their now ex-spouses. Lol."

— clairefreeman

7. "I am currently involved in a wedding as the maid of honor. The future groom texted me, his future mother-in-law, and the other bridesmaid that he was calling off the wedding because he got upset — while driving drunk on the interstate at rush hour — that his future wife could fix a recurring issue with his car that he had failed to deal with for three months, which had caused his car to stop running abruptly."

"Following that, he texted me and the other bridesmaid that we were 'low-life pieces of ***' for not having ordered our dresses the week after he canceled the wedding. He claimed that children, work, and illness should not come before this wedding. They are not married yet, but I know how it will end."

— sarac4894b4932

8. "My friend’s fiancée threw her engagement ring at him four or five times leading up to the wedding whenever she got upset at him. The marriage lasted less than two years."

— davidwigton

9. "She came from a large, loud Italian family. He came from a broken home where his dad had been an alcoholic. Shortly after becoming engaged, he became more controlling — from when she could have her bridal shower to her dress and makeup. He would get upset if she stopped by her parents to discuss plans for a wedding they were paying for."

" On the day of the wedding, he was mad at everyone, and during the reception, he left to hang out at the softball fields. The marriage lasted less than three years, but it was three years too many."

—63, USA

10. "I was in the wedding party. His vows included some snide comments about how she would start cleaning more. Then the mother/son dance was this super awkward choreographed dance about how she (the bride) had stolen the groom from his mother. And for some reason she willingly participated in the dance."

—31, USA

11. "When I found out that both the bride and the groom were currently engaged to other people."

—42, Michigan

12. "My now-husband and I were friends with a groom in college, and I had only met his fiancée once before the wedding. She gave me a weird vibe, but I thought it was just because she was homeschooled and devoutly Catholic, and I was the opposite, raised loosely Methodist and in public school. Then we got closer to the wedding, and her 'quirks' turned more to selfish, bridezilla behavior. Snapping seemingly out of nowhere at her friends and family at pre-wedding events, demanding I *not* continue with my weight-loss efforts so I wouldn't upstage her, and vetoing everything the groom wanted while demanding everything she wanted."

"The final straw was when she started asking a bunch of the guests very personal questions about how they were raised (whether or not they were religious or Catholic), their stances on a bunch of religious and political topics, and if their family lined up with her definition of purity. Because my husband was conceived out of wedlock to teen parents, and I wasn't conservative enough, we were going to get booted out of the wedding party and off the guest list, along with quite a few of the groom's other friends and family. That was enough for him to call off the wedding a few months out. Last I've heard from her, she married someone else not long after, and he is now in a much healthier relationship with a much kinder woman."

—24, Virginia

13. "I was the maid of honor, and the groom tried to get me and another woman 'to his bed.' Also, the mother-in-law was a toxic boy mom and kept making the bride cry. The marriage lasted two years."

—42, New Jersey

14. "I knew it wouldn't last when she didn't tell me she was pregnant with the dude's child, and she got married without telling anyone. How I look at it, her family made her get married to him because she was pregnant because they had an image to uphold."

"I hate to say it, but she was desperate to be loved and loved by anyone who would show her affection."

— summertymelalah

15. "The groom spent the entire reception offering heartfelt apologies to everyone his new wife had offended with her nasty, belittling behavior before, during, and after the service — probably 40 out of the 100 guests attending, including me and my plus-one. Don't marry someone that upsets 40% of the people around her!"

—42, UK

16. "Between the dress reveal and the ceremony, they had a disagreement over something very minor. This disagreement turned into each of them blaming each other's learning disabilities and anxieties on every conceivable (and some inconceivable) problem they had throughout the relationship. They went through with it anyway."

"After the reception, every single guest wished them, 'Good luck," but we all knew how it would end . Fast-forward 18 months, and they are divorced, both living back with their parents."

—45, New York

17. "My friend was 19 when they met, started dating, got engaged, AND married. He was 31. Even then, to 19-year-old me, that was at least a yellow flag — both the age difference and the *rush*. He said she was always wrong because, I quote, 'I'm older, so I must be right.' He assumed my boyfriend and his cousin were secretly gay lovers because they hugged at a funeral. She specifically told him that she did not want a public Valentine's Day proposal; she thought it was cheesy and embarrassing and told him so. Guess when and how he proposed? Crowded restaurant, February 14. She was disappointed but shrugged it off. They hadn't kissed until the ceremony, and then the groom just went at it, slapping her behind so hard we all flinched, full breast fondles, and visible tongue."

"Her brother wouldn't be his groomsman (the dude didn't have enough friends or family who spoke to him still to have a wedding party and any guests) because he didn't support the relationship, but he did agree to be the MC at their mom's request. His speech was basically about how much he loved his sister and how wonderful she was, and the only mention the groom got was, 'and groom is lucky he pulled this off.' I've been to other weddings where you were pretty sure it wasn't going to work out (including one where the paternity of the bride's unborn child was in question, and she ran off a week later with the best man), but at this wedding, there was no joy, no fun, and no one had a good time — just concern and anxiety about just how rough a life the bride was in for , and yeah, it's been every bit as bad as expected."

—40, Canada

18. "Not my friend, but the man she married. She was cheating on him until two months before the wedding. She was ready to dump him for the guy who she was cheating with because she thought he had more earning power. But when the guy stood her up one night after all the arrangements she made to ditch her family and meet up with him, she was furious and went ahead with the wedding. She had been cheating on him the entire time they were together, with multiple different men."

"I felt really bad for him; he was a nice guy who didn't deserve to be treated that way. Last I knew, they were still together, and that was more than 20 years ago. "

—62, Florida

And finally...

19. "My friend, on the morning of her wedding, told me and another friend that she was scared to get married. Not nervous or excited. Scared. Her face during the ceremony was another dead giveaway. At times, it was fear, skepticism, and mortification, with very little excitement or happiness. Their marriage didn't even last a year before they were separated."

—33, California

Fellow former bridesmaids or groomsmen, what were the "red flags" that your friend's marriage would not last? Feel free to share in the comments below. Or, if you prefer to remain anonymous, feel free to use this Google form .

Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.