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    They planned to wed in NC on Nov. 9. Instead, in Helene’s wake, there’ll be four funerals.

    By Théoden Janes,

    6 days ago

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    In their imaginations, Knox Petrucci and Alison Wisely were at their wedding — dancing.

    Perhaps cheek to cheek, to a cherished song of Knox’s, like Langhorne Slim’s “Changes” or JFDR’s “White Sun.” Or maybe to a tune Knox had penned for the self-produced folk-rock album he’d been recording. Or, more likely, to a party favorite they could both just let loose to; with laughter cascading out of their mouths; surrounded by Alison’s sons Felix (9) and Lucas (7), friends from all over Western North Carolina’s Yancey County, and relatives from all over the country.

    In their imaginations, this dancing would have followed a show-stopping speech by the precocious Felix, who was planning to kick off his remarks to their 50 or so guests with: “Thank you, everyone, for joining us on this auspicious evening...”

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    Which would have followed a big Italian feast. Which would have been preceded by Knox — in a brand-new navy-blue suit and an ascot — and Alison — in an embroidered top and white pants — standing in the shadow of Mount Mitchell and professing their undying love for each other.

    They had been daydreaming about these moments for more than a year.

    And in some ways, it was more than just a wedding. More than just a joyful excuse to assemble the people they treasured most.

    It would be a moment of triumph, a climb to the top of their own personal mountains after years of tribulations. For Knox, who in recent years had reestablished a close relationship with his older sister Briana Yarbrough after a long, sorrowful estrangement. For Alison, who in the wake of a painful divorce had formed a healthy co-parenting situation with their devoted father, Lance Wisely.

    But on Sept. 27, just over six weeks before they were to be married, Hurricane Helene unleashed a deluge that caused the normally peaceful river in front of their Green Mountain home to become a ferocious — and deadly — ocean.

    So ferocious and so deadly, in fact, that nobody can give a full accounting of what that day was like for them because nobody survived to offer one: At roughly noon on that Friday, Knox, Alison, Felix and Lucas were swept away as they sought safety from floodwaters.

    The only thing certain now is that the very day Knox and Alison had planned to marry is instead being reserved for four funerals.

    He was 41. She was 35.

    “It definitely feels like a bad movie,” says Knox’s sister, Briana, calling from her home in Palo Alto, Calif., sounding both deeply exhausted and deeply shattered. “I don’t —” she starts to say, then she stops. Then she sighs. Then she starts, softly, to cry. “It’s like I’m not talking about real life right now.”

    ‘I just made this beautiful human my fiancé e ’

    They originally bonded over — of all things — bees.

    In 2019, Knox and Alison both found themselves employed at Honey & the Hive , a Weaverville beekeeping supply store that Knox had only applied to work for because he was looking for a job and they were hiring.

    They started dating in short order, attracted by shared passions that included animals, and art, and camping, and creativity, and being members of the queer community in an area where it wasn’t always easy to be a member of the queer community, among other things. (On top of that, Knox knew something of failed marriages, having been through one in his 20s.)

    Before long, they were moving in together.

    Up until the moment Helene took her life, this NC mom was watching out for her loved ones

    Their home was idyllic and idiosyncratic: a 1950s-era brick ranch with a fenced yard and a two-story barn, sprawling across a three-acre plot of land upon which also sat an older, larger, decommissioned outbuilding that long ago served as the little town’s post office and general store. On the opposite side of their street were some railroad tracks, and on the other side of the tracks was the North Toe River.

    As their relationship grew through the pandemic, their careers also seemed to snap into sharper focus.

    Knox took to the whole bee thing with authority, becoming the store manager and eventually a teacher of beekeeping courses.

    Meanwhile, although Alison likewise had an affinity for the winged insects, she also had a degree from Western Carolina in forensic anthropology — and felt called to pursue a vocation related not just to death, but also (ironically) to grief. So she went after and landed a job as operations manager at Carolina Memorial Sanctuary , a conservation and green cemetery built into the lush, green, rolling hills of Mills River.

    By last year, they’d built a well-rounded life that they loved, so much so that on June 11, 2023, Knox slipped onto Alison’s ring finger a piece of jewelry he’d blacksmithed himself using a small forge he’d bought.

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    Knox and Alison, freshly engaged, in June of 2023. Courtesy of Briana Yarbrough

    Briana, the sister he’d been making up for lost time with, was the first person he told.

    “I just made this beautiful human my fiancée,” Knox wrote in a text to his sister, beneath a selfie of the bespectacled couple showing off the ring.

    He knew, of course, that in proposing to Alison he also was proposing to be a stepdad to Felix and Lucas — and he knew, of course, that these weren’t just any ordinary boys.

    Baby swings, podcasts and misunderstandings

    Lucas, 7, liked cows. A lot. He had at least nine stuffed ones, if not 10 or 11, and he would attempt to carry all of them with him. Everywhere. Even to the water park, while his dad Lance Wisely strenuously objected.

    Lucas wanted to be pushed in a baby swing that still hung from a tree at Lance’s house in Marshall, N.C., not because he liked being considered a baby but because his dad could strap Lucas in to the baby swing. Securely. Meaning his dad could then swing him as high as possible and then add in a good, hard, death-defying spin.

    Lucas did gymnastics, had started taking aerial silks classes, could climb 20-foot-tall trees in rain boots, and — oh yeah, was bilingual, thanks to the Spanish immersion program at North Buncombe Elementary School.

    Felix, 9, was stupefying his parents by the time he was just 3, when he was already expressing an interest in learning about obscure types of dinosaurs and (ironically) the most severe types of weather events, from tornadoes to hurricanes.

    Felix was incredibly curious, perceptive, and articulate, a future star on the debate team.

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    Felix could hang with adults in a lot of respects, and proved it by discussing wild creatures, folklore and supernatural topics with his mom Alison — as co-host of a podcast called “Beyond Legends” that they launched together just this past April.

    This, his parents would probably admit, is classic Felix: The week of Sept. 16, Felix confronted his dad and asked him if he wanted to marry his partner, Sarah Sheahan of Minneapolis, Minn.; Lance said yes. Felix then called Sarah and asked if she wanted to marry his dad; Sarah said yes. Not long after that, when Lance was on the phone with Alison about figuring out the holidays with the kids, Alison said to Lance, “So, Felix tells me you guys are engaged...”

    “That,” Lance exclaimed, “is not what we said!”

    On the morning of Friday, Sept. 20, Lance dropped the boys off at school in Weaverville. It would be the last time he’d see his sons alive.

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    Lance Wisely gives bedtime snuggles to his sons Felix and Lucas. Courtesy of Lance Wisely

    A surge of optimism, then worst fears realized

    Briana called from the West Coast to check in on Knox late Wednesday evening, a day before Helene was expected to hit.

    He’d done some basic stormproofing, he informed her, but he didn’t seem worried about it. And she wasn’t either. Her brother lived in the mountains, after all. Not on the beach.

    Thursday passed with no contact. Friday the line was quiet, too. She still wasn’t overly concerned. They had been in fairly frequent touch since reconciling 2-1/2 years earlier, but it’s not like they talked every day. It wasn’t until some people she knew who had extended family in North Carolina reached out on Saturday to ask if she had heard from Knox.

    “No,” Briana said. “Why?”

    They told her about the storm. She looked at the news. It was the first she was seeing about Helene, and headlines were screaming with words like “brutal” and “devastation.”

    She immediately texted Knox. She would never get a reply.

    From 2,500 miles away, as Briana’s panic rapidly intensified, she started trying to exploit social media and the internet to glean whatever information she could that might provide clues to how things were looking back in Green Mountain.

    From Minnesota, where he had been visiting Sarah, Lance was doing the same. There had even been talk of the two of them trying to drive back to North Carolina in Sarah’s four-wheel-drive vehicle, so they could try to navigate through the wasteland Helene had created to get to Knox and Alison’s house themselves. They ultimately were discouraged from doing so, and stayed put.

    Monday, Sept. 30, was the day that brought a surge of optimism after more than 48 hours of agony.

    At the family’s request, someone in Yancey County with a good telephoto zoom lens had gotten as close to the house as they safely could before confronting a severely washed out part of the road, and snapped a picture. It showed the structure still standing, and the door open. The house hadn’t been swept away , Lance thought. Maybe they’re OK after all. Maybe that open door means they’re airing out the house.

    But on Tuesday, Oct. 1, the worst of Lance’s worst fears was realized, times four.

    Sarah had been able to reach a fire department dispatcher, who had talked to a Green Mountain resident, who had reported this: Around noon the previous Friday — as the river turned into a sea that surged high above its banks, across the tracks and the road and into K nox and Alison’s front yard — two adults with children were observed along their road getting into a white vehicle. Alison owned a white Mazda CX-5.

    The violently swirling flood kept rising. The vehicle began to float. The people scrambled back out of it.

    According to the eyewitness, the four were struggling to make their way through the water back to the house when a giant wave lifted all of them up — and rushing water carried them away.

    ‘I’m realizing how much more I wish I knew them’

    It’s been a blur of immense sadness ever since Lance called Briana and told her she should sit down.

    A blur of crying. Of sobbing. Of excruciating phone calls. Of having, Briana says, “to give that message over and over,” and of every reaction being “the most painful thing to experience: that deep grief, the wail of people that loved my brother.”

    Of trying and routinely failing to make sense of the nonsensical.

    Yet they’ve been heartened by an overwhelming outpouring of support from the community. The locals who chased leads for clues to what happened. The rescuers who were eventually able to find all four bodies, which on one hand made it really real but on the other gave them some peace. The more than a thousand people who’ve donated more than $65,000 to a GoFundMe in Knox, Alison, Felix and Lucas’ memories. The sanctuary where Alison worked offering to cover the costs of their burial and funeral expenses.

    The friends and neighbors who have found and cared for their cattle dog, Reishi, and their cat, Mowgli, and who remain on the lookout for Moonpie, their still-missing hound.

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    Reishi the cattle dog frolics near Relief Road Extension in Green Mountain. Courtesy of Briana Yarbrough

    And the beekeeper-buddy of theirs, Melissa Mejia of Burnsville, who hiked through the mud to the house with her husband, Marc, and salvaged — in addition to a handful of mementos the family will want — the boys’ lizard, Sheila, alive.

    Melissa has been back to the house multiple times since, with multiple people, because Knox’s and Alison’s families haven’t been able to get to Western North Carolina, but also because it’s an arduous process to sift through all the damage. Basically, it’s like a bomb went off inside. “Like someone picked up the house, and filled it with water, and shook it around, and then everything settled — but then they added a bunch of mud to it,” says Charlie Oak Blakely, one of the couple’s best friends, who’s been joining Melissa on the salvage missions.

    “Everybody who goes in their house,” Melissa adds, “gets stuck in the mud. There’s always, for everybody, been a moment where you can’t turn around. It’s like quicksand. You’re stuck, and then you’re losing your balance, and it’s like a moment of despair. But ...”

    She pauses, then finishes the thought:

    “... It feels wrong to be upset inside of their house. Because they were so kind and loving and joyful and positive.”

    Hanging onto the happiest feelings they can

    In a weird way, in Lance’s imagination, it almost seems as if the boys, Alison, and Knox are still there — in or around that house — together.

    Lance still hasn’t returned to North Carolina from Minnesota, and so in his imagination, “it feels, in some ways, like my children are just with their mother. Which, in a grim sense is true. But not in the sense that like, Oh, I’m gonna get them back next week . Which, sometimes, it still feels that way.”

    He’s as shattered as any father can be. He’d give anything to push Lucas on the baby swing one more time, or to shake his head and smile in disbelief at something Felix did or said that made the boy seem twice his age.

    But he also already is trying to imagine a future in which he’s as happy as he was when they were alive.

    “I mean, what can you do? Right?” Lance says. “I’ve known some parents who have lost their children, and ... a lot of them turn into shells of people — like, they’re just hollowed out by it — and I don’t want to do that. ...

    “It’s heartbreaking that they won’t be here for me to share those things with anymore, to experience the joy of their silliness and their childlike perspective. They were such amazing, magical, ridiculous, curious, energetic, joyful children. And I want to keep the vitality that I was showing my children — you know, showing them how to just drink from life.

    “I still want to do that.”

    In Knox’s sister Briana’s imagination, meanwhile, she and her 14-year-old daughter, Dahlia, are transported back to the week this past summer when they visited Green Mountain and Knox, Alison, Felix and Lucas.

    They’re catching fireflies around a bonfire. They’re standing in front of that old post office and general store on Knox and Alison’s property and listening to Knox talk about how he’d like to turn the building into an art center. They’re out playing with the boys next to the river. Felix is trying to find watersnakes. Lucas is splashing in the ankle-deep water.

    The river is being kind, being gentle, being a friend.

    Briana can also envision an alternate current reality in which Knox and Alison are still alive, and they’re bringing the kids along as they get up to their elbows in the various grassroots hurricane relief efforts all over Western North Carolina.

    Finally, for a few fleeting moments here and there — in her imagination — it’s November 9th, and Briana is attending not a somber private funeral but the joyful wedding that her brother and her would-be-sister-in-law had planned for that day. And when she can imagine that, she imagines this:

    Knox and Alison, dancing.

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    Alison Wisely and Knox Petrucci were to be married in a small ceremony on the edge of Burnsville, N.C., on Nov. 9. Courtesy of Briana Yarbrough

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    Leona Hill
    5d ago
    RIP.
    Princess Gibson
    5d ago
    So very sorry for your loss. 😢😢😢😢💔💔💔💔
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