When a mother does not have the love of her husband, she destroys her son: Carl Jung conclusions

Carl Jung on the psychology of men

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The famous Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Carl Jung carefully researched the theme of "man-child", and the results of these studies are very interesting.

Carl Jung, one of the pioneers of psychology, explored the complex relationships that shape our psyche.

About the "man-child" complex

Jung believed that a mother's unmet emotional needs can have serious consequences for her children, especially her sons. When a mother feels unloved or neglected by her husband, she may unconsciously seek to fill her emotional void through her son. This dynamic can place undue psychological stress on the child, distorting his development and sense of self.

As the great psychiatrist noted, upbringing that does not correspond to the correct development of the child can lead to the formation of the so-called "man-child" complex. For example, if the father does not provide the mother with emotional support and attention, she may begin to look for it in the child, thereby creating a deeper connection than necessary. Therefore, the mother can become too caring and "smother" her son with her attention, tying him to herself and not giving him the opportunity to get rid of the feeling of dependence on her.

As Janusz Wisniewski wrote: “The most important thing a father can do for his child is to be a good husband to his mother.”

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How a mother ruins her son

Being the child of such an obsessive mother, a man simply cannot live alone. She will constantly correct all of her son's mistakes and make all of his important life decisions for him, as long as he allows her to do so.

In the book Jung's Modern Clinical Practice it says: "Here you have a man living in the past, trying to escape from this cold and cruel world he cannot understand. His mother is often at his side, showing no concern that her son has grown up as a man and doing nothing to help him grow up and start a family of his own.

You become a witness to a kind of conspiracy between a mother and son and see how they help each other to deceive real life.

He makes only a series of small attempts to free himself, because his initiative and endurance are paralyzed by the secret memory that peace and happiness can only be obtained from his mother... This places certain demands on the man's masculinity, his diligence and, above all, his courage and determination to put everything on the line. For this he will need the support of the insidious Eros, who is capable of forgetting his mother and surviving the break with the first love of his life."

This idea is very profound and its existence may seem unreal to some, but the fact is that mothers who raise and support children do all this consciously, whether they admit it or not.

A son who is caught up in his mother's emotional struggles may find it difficult to assert his masculinity and independence. When a son is overwhelmed by the burden of caring for his mother, he may struggle to set boundaries and have difficulty forming healthy relationships.

Sons of such mothers cannot find true happiness outside their mother's lap because their mothers hinder them in every way. The maternal complex itself, when examined in detail, is quite shocking. A mother who seeks her son's love to fill the void created by an unloving husband risks harming her son's psychological growth and independence.

Some men really cannot reach psychological maturity because of the absence of a father and what they need from him. But in order to live a successful and independent life, such men need to get rid of the dependence that their mother has on them.

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