What kind of women do men love all their lives: Remarque's wise words

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Love, a mysterious force that transcends time and space, manifests itself in countless forms. Although each person's preferences and desires are different, there are certain qualities in women that resonate deeply with men, creating a love that endures through life's trials.

What are these qualities that win men's hearts and inspire lifelong devotion? Let's figure it out.

According to psychologist Mikhail Labkovsky, women who seek his advice are divided into two categories: dependent and independent.

Dependent women are attached to their husbands because of fear of abandonment. They may be emotionally, financially or materially dependent on their partners.

Independent women are not bound by dependency. They focus on their own well-being. If they feel happy in the marriage, they continue it; if not, they end it.

Labkovsky believes that the ability to let go of an unwanted partner is an opportunity to find happiness for both yourself and your ex-husband. Men usually run away from their dependent wives at the first opportunity when their feelings weaken, while independent women stay in the marriage until the end.

As Mikhail Labkovsky said: "You have to learn to show character, and not adapt to everyone. Men, like children, like it when a woman has character."

What kind of women do men love all their lives?

Independent, detached, aloof, rebellious - these are not traits that repel men, but rather qualities that capture their hearts and stir their souls. There is an inner magnetism in a woman who goes her own way, who charts her course amidst the chaos of life with unwavering determination. She is a beacon of freedom, a symbol of liberation in a world shackled by conventions and expectations.

Men crave women who have their own world, dreams and goals, women whose interests go beyond cosmetics, dresses and him. In such relationships there is always an insatiable thirst for depth, content, and it is the independent woman who satisfies this desire with her multifaceted personality.

Matthew McConaughey said: "A woman is a sphinx whose riddle you have to solve all your life and come to terms with the fact that it is impossible to fully understand her."

A man who dreams of such a woman sees in her an equal partner, a kindred spirit on his life's journey. He strives for someone who challenges him, who ignites his passion and enriches his existence with her unique outlook on life. He dreams of a life partner who would not only be a lover, but also a confidant, a muse, a companion in life's adventures.

However, the reality of life with such a woman can be frightening. The same traits that initially attracted him - her independence, detachment, rebellious spirit - can become sources of conflict and tension in the family environment.

When she asks him to dress warmly, eat the vinaigrette he's prepared, or call when he arrives at the station, she goes from being a goddess of independence to being a sister, a friend, a comrade, or even a mother. The dynamic changes, the boundaries blur, and what was once exciting becomes stifling.

As Mikhail Labkovsky said: “No one has ever married for the ability to cook borscht, it’s just a nice bonus.”

In Remarque's work "Three Comrades" there is a short dialogue that answers the question "What kind of women do people love all their lives?" Here it is:

- I'm a very bad guy, Robbie.

- I hope so. I don't need a woman as a comrade. I need a lover.

“I’m not a lover,” she muttered.

- So who are you?

- Not a half and not a whole. Just... a fragment...

- And this is the best. It excites the imagination. Such women are loved forever. Complete women quickly become boring. Perfect ones too, but "fragments" - never.

Bernard Shaw wrote: "It is easier to live with a passionate woman than with a boring one. True, they are sometimes strangled, but rarely abandoned."

Love knows no boundaries or stereotypes when it comes to women who inspire eternal affection. A diverse set of qualities and experiences form the basis of lasting love.

What do you think about this - what kind of women are loved all life? Share in the comments!