4 Signs to Tell a Smart Woman from a "Stupid" One: Eleanor Roosevelt's Observation

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At the beginning of our lives, we all start out pretty much the same: dressed in a school uniform and dreaming of a future where we can achieve everything our hearts desire. As we grow, the paths we take to achieve these dreams vary greatly. Some pursue serious careers, others seek out supportive partners, some get married and forget about their dreams, and others value their independence and freedom.

The path of life is long and winding, full of experiences, knowledge, and lessons. Over time, the similarities we once shared with our peers give way to differences that highlight our choices. These differences often reveal a clear line between those who are smart and those who are more narrow-minded.

Some people are stuck in outdated thinking, while others are adaptable and open to change. Of course, success and happiness don't always go hand in hand, because true happiness is inside, not about external attributes and achievements. But we all want to live a quality life and be well off.

What distinguishes smart women from the rest?

Here are 4 criteria that Eleanor Roosevelt advised to pay attention to.

1. Smart women have a special attitude towards money

Eleanor Roosevelt was known for disliking people who were financially reckless and lived beyond their means. She also had a particular opinion of those who relied heavily on loans to survive.

America's First Lady once wisely noted, "Smart women plan years ahead."

This statement rings true as a prudent woman understands the importance of budgeting for her children's future, household items and other important expenses. In contrast, a less discerning woman overlooks these important aspects, often ending up in a debt trap.

2. Appearance: Authenticity is more important than artificiality

A smart woman understands that true beauty is an expression of her uniqueness. Eleanor Roosevelt believed that self-confidence and self-esteem are the keys to true beauty.

As the writer Victor Pelevin said, "You can have new eyes, nose and lips, but this will not result in a new quality - beauty. Because beauty is from nature, it is in uniqueness."

Smart women are respectful of their natural features and age, understanding that their value does not lie in looking younger or conforming to society's beauty standards. There is an old saying: "Beauty is only skin deep, but intelligence goes to the bone."

Smart women are a joy to behold because they dress with style and sophistication. Their choices reflect a deep understanding of themselves and a confidence that comes from within. They don’t feel the need to adorn themselves with gold and rhinestones to stand out. Instead, they focus on their inner beauty and character.

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3. Laughter: Joy and Wisdom

Laughter is one of life's greatest pleasures, and smart women understand its true value. Eleanor Roosevelt emphasized the importance of maintaining a positive outlook, which often manifests itself in a sense of humor.

Smart women laugh freely and sincerely, finding joy in the moments of life. Their laughter is not forced or superficial, but a true expression of their happiness. There is a saying that "laughter is the best medicine," and smart women know how to use it to brighten their lives and the lives of those around them.

They understand the appropriateness of humor in various situations. Although they can laugh heartily with close friends, in more formal settings they maintain a reserved demeanor. A smart woman knows that laughing too loudly can be a sign of a narrow outlook.

Their humor is never at the expense of others. They find joy in wit and shared laughter, not in ridicule or belittlement. It is this empathy and sensitivity that makes their laughter so inspiring and inclusive.

One woman once shared a story about a business trip she was on. The flight attendant dropped a croissant on the floor, picked it up, blew on it to clear the dust, and then handed it to an older gentleman with his coffee. She thought it was funny, while others thought it was a clear sign of airline incompetence. This story shows how smart women find humor in life's absurdities without putting others down.

4. Speech and communication

Eleanor Roosevelt famously said, "Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; little minds discuss people."

Smart women embody this wisdom in their communication. Their conversations are meaningful. They avoid gossip and focus on meaningful discussions that inspire and uplift those around them. They understand that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and they refrain from arguing or imposing their views on others.

As the Greek philosopher Epictetus said, “We have two ears and one mouth, so we can listen twice as much as we speak.”

A smart woman does not swear or use foul language. Instead, she listens more than she speaks, creating a comfortable and respectful environment for dialogue.

Intelligence is not just knowledge, but how we carry ourselves, how we find joy, and how we connect with others. Let’s remember the words of Eleanor Roosevelt and continue to improve ourselves to become the best versions of ourselves.

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