What You Shouldn't Share and What You Need to Get Rid of: 9 Truths That Will Save You

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9 Truths That Will Save You from Many Mistakes and Suffering

How often do we seek approval by sharing our plans, ideas, dreams, and in response we receive misunderstanding, criticism, and feel how the desire to do something disappears. Our dreams, which previously seemed brilliant and bright, fade under the weight of someone else's skepticism. Or, having shared our successes, we feel emptiness, as if all the energy that nourished us has flowed away.

It was probably not for nothing that our grandmothers said: “Don’t share with your girlfriend, share with your pillow.”

Why is their advice relevant today? When we open our souls, we become vulnerable to other people's words, emotions, and any reactions. That's why other people's words hurt, humiliate, and deprive us of our strength.

In order to maintain self-confidence and not waste your energy, it is important to follow certain rules.

Here are 9 of them that will save you a lot of mistakes and suffering:

1. Keep your plans and goals secret.

"Work hard in silence, let success make noise." Frank Ocean

Talking about your dreams and goals can drain the emotional energy needed to achieve them. Silence gives you space to develop your ideas and achieve your goals without the pressure and control of others. Keep your aspirations close to your heart, nurturing them privately until they are ready to blossom.

2. Don't share personal information with strangers

"A fool is known by his speech, but a wise man by his silence." Pythagoras

In a world where information is currency, guard your personal data carefully. Sharing personal data with people you don’t know well can lead to unwanted advice, criticism, gossip, jealousy, or misunderstanding. Trust is earned over time and through consistent action, not handed out to everyone you meet.

Even close relationships require you to be selective about what you share. Pay attention to how you feel after sharing personal information; if you feel drained or have negative feelings, consider keeping such matters private in the future.

3. Get rid of debts – financial, moral, emotional.

Debt in any form is a shackle that hinders your freedom and growth. Living with the belief that you owe something or that others owe you something creates stress and drains your energy.

Financial burdens, broken promises, and unresolved emotional baggage all weigh heavily on your spirit. Work hard to release these debts, allowing yourself to live with a sense of peace and liberation.

4. Resist the urge to brag about your successes

"The biggest problem after achieving success is keeping quiet about it" - Chriss Jami

Boasting about your accomplishments can breed envy and resentment. Let your actions speak louder than your words.

If you find yourself craving praise, think about why this external approval is so important to you.

5. Don't complain about your problems

"Complaining about a problem without offering a solution is called whining." Theodore Roosevelt

Everyone faces challenges, but constantly complaining only makes the suffering worse. Instead, look for solutions and take proactive steps to improve your situation. Sharing challenges can improve relationships, but wallowing in them will drag you and those around you into a quagmire of negativity.

6. Live your emotions

"The best way out is always to go straight ahead." Robert Frost

Suppressing emotions only increases their power over you. Embrace your feelings, whether they are joy or sadness, and fully understand them.

Allow yourself to fully experience and release emotions such as hurt, guilt, or sadness. This prevents negative feelings from building up and promotes emotional healing.

7. Avoid gossip, criticism or judgment of others

"Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people." Eleanor Roosevelt

Gossip and criticism are a waste of energy and can create negative thinking. Instead, look for ways to praise and support others, fostering positive interactions that lift both you and those around you.

8. Protect your personal boundaries

“Having the courage to set boundaries means having the courage to love ourselves, even at the risk of disappointing others.” Brené Brown

Boundaries are essential to maintaining your mental and emotional well-being. Learn to say no without guilt and prioritize your needs and values. Healthy boundaries promote mutual respect and protect you from being bullied or taken advantage of.

9. Filter the information you consume

“Your mind is priceless. It contains the power to open up endless possibilities.” Joel Annesley

In the age of information overload, be selective about what you consume. Negative news, toxic social media, and misleading facts can cloud your judgment. Seek knowledge that enlightens, inspires, and empowers you. Take regular breaks from information consumption and television to give your mind a chance to rest and recharge.

By following these principles, you will be able to overcome life's difficulties with dignity and become stronger and wiser. Remember that true wisdom lies not only in knowing these truths, but also in living them every day.

Which principle did you like the most? Share in the comments!