9 Rules That Show You're an Emotionally Intelligent Person

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Emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive, control, and evaluate one’s own feelings and the feelings of those around them. It is not known whether emotional intelligence can be learned or is an innate trait, but it is known that people with high levels of emotional intelligence do not do the following 9 things:

1. They don't let others control their feelings.

People with high emotional intelligence are very sensitive, but they always try to control their own emotions, no matter what others tell them. In other words, they will not let others ruin their mood, they are very sensitive, but always try to control their feelings. They are resilient and quickly recover from any negativity, rejection, betrayal.

2. They avoid the victim mentality

Because they are fully aware of their feelings, they understand that only they can control their feelings. They do not blame others if they have a bad day.

3. They are ready for change

People with high emotional intelligence always try to achieve their own goals and do not allow themselves to be passive. They believe in themselves, work hard to get rid of their fears, and always try to stay motivated, no matter what obstacles they face. They do not shy away from change and are not afraid to leave their comfort zone, because they know that this development and something new in life will open the way to a better future.

4. They don't gossip

They understand how harmful gossip is and know that nothing good can come from gossip. They will enjoy engaging in positive, deep, and meaningful conversations with others and will avoid conversations filled with negativity. They simply do not have the energy or time for meaningless conversations and maintaining superficial relationships with people.

5. They are not ashamed to say “no” when they need to do so.

They understand that they can't always say yes to everything.

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6. They don't let their feelings get the better of them.

Although emotionally intelligent people are always aware of their feelings, they do not focus solely on their inner world. They are aware of their emotions, but they do not allow them to rule their lives.

7. They don't ignore the reason why they feel that way.

Emotionally intelligent people not only recognize their feelings, but also know why they feel that way. They will always look a little deeper into themselves to discover the cause, fully understand why certain feelings arose in the first place, and how to deal with them.

8. They don't get involved in unnecessary conflicts

People with high EI know that feelings are energy and understand that they will have to choose their battles.

9. They don't ignore the feelings of others

They understand the emotions of other people and can put themselves in other people's shoes.

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