Avoid these people: they drain you emotionally, financially and psychologically

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If possible, try to avoid such people...

Living a successful life requires many things: dedication, self-belief, and a strong purpose, to name a few. But there's another key part to success that many people miss.

In fact, countless dreams have been sabotaged and people held back for one reason: they held on to friends, partners or associates who drained their energy, resources, attention and well-being.

Here are the types of people you should try to stay away from if you want to have a successful and fulfilling life.

1. Professional victims

We have all been victims of life at some point, including some groups and individuals in truly tragic and unspeakable ways. Sacrifice is absolutely real on an individual and collective level. But those who actively choose to take on the role of victim are making a conscious decision, and it is almost always a manipulative decision.

Deep down, the calculation is: I have been through a lot of pain, so you should respect everything I say and do what I say. This is an illogical way of thinking and, unfortunately, can lead to a lot of harm.

If you come across people like this who can't stop focusing on their victim role, it's best to avoid them as much as possible.

2. People who make a lot of promises but don't keep them

In business, in love, in almost any context, there is nothing more frustrating and counterproductive than those who are extremely inconsistent.

If a mechanic tells you he will do his best to fix your car in three days, and it takes him more than a week to arrive, you need to start asking for new recommendations.

Choosing to do business and associate with people who make promises and don't keep them is a surefire way to disaster.

If you want to succeed in life, seek the company of those who mean what they say.

3. Sweet talkers and liars

Being a charismatic person and a great speaker is great, but every successful man or woman knows that sweet talk can also be dangerous.

Beware of those who are caught in petty lies and greatly exaggerate:

These people are reckless and will throw you into the fire before you even realize what's going on.

What initially seems like a minor red flag in your relationship or at work can quickly turn into emotional minefields when you're dealing with someone who consistently lies and talks nonsense.

4. Emotional exploiters and manipulators

Emotions are powerful forces that can sometimes make us all do crazy things.

Many manipulative people understand this well and love emotions because of how overwhelming and absolute they can be.

Pity, happiness, hope, sadness, anger, confusion... All these emotions are sometimes natural and healthy. But in the hands of the wrong person, they become weapons. By distorting your hopes and fears or playing on your confusion, the exploiter tries his best to take your money, energy and resources.

As soon as you see signs that someone is like this - run headlong in any case!

5. Codependent partners

When it comes to romantic partners and close friends, try to avoid codependent people.

Many of us have aspects of codependency, but for some it is a truly lifelong struggle.

This usually manifests itself as an inability to feel good about oneself and a search for emotional and psychological complements in others, and others may experience it when a partner is particularly distant or extremely affectionate.

Both extremes are unhealthy and can lead to great losses, robbing your life of energy and optimism.

If you have codependency issues with your partner that you want to work on, that's great, but do your best to avoid those who exhibit strong codependent traits in the first place.

6. Spiritual narcissists and vain gurus

Spiritual narcissism is a very real problem, and it goes hand in hand with self-righteous gurus. Those who talk about “cleansing” their energy and their high vibrations often attend seminars and special programs run by men and women who seek and need confirmation of their elite status: these “gurus” are enlightened, “pure,” on another level. Or so they say.

To reach their “level”, you will have to pay: with your mind, with money, sometimes with your body… Only you know what path of spiritual expansion is best for you. No one can do it for you. Avoid those who claim to know better and more. The real teachers are not those who sit above you, but next to you.

7. Financial leeches

Close relatives of spiritual narcissists are the con artists and financial leeches. They want your money and promise to return it after investing or something. They also never have a bishop, coffee or drink, although they are full of advice if you need to manage your money.

8. Reckless and immature people

Reckless and immature people can be a lot of fun. But their version of fun can quickly lead to very dangerous life consequences.

If you spend time with adult children, you will regret it. Even if they do not cause you physical harm, their teenage attitude and approach to life will humiliate you and make you question your own purpose and needs in life.

9. Nihilists and ideological fanatics

It is not interesting to communicate with nihilists who have honestly given up on life or hate it. Their attitude is also contagious in a bad way.

Ideological fanatics are the same way. They have such a rigid view of the world that they filter everything through a strict lens. The result is a boring, clear-cut (and inaccurate) view of reality that ultimately limits your own perspective and keeps you from realizing your potential.

Spending time with people who have strong opinions? Absolutely. But spending time with people who are obsessed with having opinions that are beyond reason and respecting them? A waste of time.

10. Aggressive people

If someone yells at you, puts you down, or speaks sarcastically about you, that is the person you should stay away from.

If possible, try to avoid such people and do not fight with them. Do not let their suffering spread to you or become your problem.

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