Why a good woman is always spoken of badly: people feed emotionally on other people's troubles

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Words are one of the most powerful tools we have. They can lift, inspire, and unite us, but they can also hurt, destroy, and divide. Once spoken, words can never be taken back, and their impact can be profound.

There is no such power, no such weapon as the spoken word.

Why do “our languages” speak so much negativity and often about good people?

Why do people like negative gossip?

The truth is that people are complex and often insecure creatures. In essence, a person is an unfinished personality that develops throughout life. At least, this is what the famous Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung believes, who in psychology calls this “individuation.”

The truth is that we are fragile and weak, we try to hide it or “trick our brains”, we prefer to deal with other people’s lives and tell ourselves: “There are worse things.”

People feed emotionally on "other people's troubles "

Negative gossip helps us quickly get rid of self-doubt. When we talk about others, especially those who seem to have it better, we momentarily distract ourselves from our own shortcomings. It’s a way of saying, “At least I’m not as bad as that person.”

By talking about other people's problems, we feed our ego, and we feel much better about it, at least for a moment.

Who speaks badly of a good woman?

The main thing you need to realize is that those who talk about you are “weak.”

These are friends, colleagues, partners, neighbors, family members, and the like.

But why is it that good women are often judged? Perhaps it is because their goodness is a mirror that reflects what we lack in ourselves. Their success, beauty or happiness can make us feel envious, causing us to put them down with our words.

And, as a rule, it is the women themselves who most often speak ill of women.

Of course, this does not apply to all women, because self-aware, self-confident, happy women do not concern themselves with other people's lives and do not gossip about others. Most often, weak women with low self-esteem speak badly about women.

A woman who gossips or speaks badly about others is a woman who is unhappy with her life, by and large, an unhappy woman. She speaks badly about women who are happier than her, who look better, who have a better marriage, an enviable career, happy children, good friends - this is like a thorn in her eye.

That other one has everything she wants to have. Instead of focusing on her qualities (because there is no person on the planet to whom God has not left qualities), instead of improving herself, her life, developing her spiritual, physical, spiritual being, she would rather gossip about another woman.

Many people find it easier to study and criticize the lives of other people than to solve problems in their own lives.

How can we help ourselves get away from gossip and backbiting?

So how can we break out of this destructive cycle? How can we stop feeding into other people’s problems and focus on our own growth? As with any bad habit, quitting gossip is not easy, but it’s not impossible. The key is to replace negative behavior with positive behavior.

Like all other habits we have acquired in life, they are difficult to change overnight. It is difficult to refrain from smoking, overeating, senseless shopping, and so on... And in this case, it is difficult to just stop gossiping. However, it can be done, fill your life with other habits, interests, hobbies.

The power of silence

Ultimately, the spoken word has power, but so does silence. When we choose not to engage in gossip, we become advocates for kindness and decency. We become stronger, more confident, and more at peace with ourselves. And in doing so, we set an example for others to follow.

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