7 Qualities of Strong People That Make Them Disliked and Feared: Words by Sigmund Freud

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Remember the wise parable, when a man comes to a wise man and asks him how to find the right woman, because all the previous ones were a complete failure: one always had an empty refrigerator, another had complete chaos and disorder, and with the third they could not live a single day in peace, they "quarreled" over every reason.

And then the wise man said that the problem was not in women, but in himself, because he was the one who could not earn money to fill the refrigerator, never cleaned up after himself and did not know how to keep his emotions under control, starting a quarrel over every reason. Therefore, he does not need to change wives, but start with himself.

Some will agree with this, and some will object. And sometimes neither three nor five unsuccessful marriages will help a person draw conclusions.

Of course, it happens that people don’t get along with good people, most often the problem is that they can’t match them, their qualities, their way of thinking, their way of life.

Sometimes strong people scare others away because they are not afraid to tell the truth, to show courage, to be themselves and to move towards their goals and dreams.

So, here are 7 qualities of a strong person that can make you feared, avoided and disliked:

1. You don't respond to criticism. You don't need approval from others.

Having a strong personality means that you rarely (if ever) need any acceptance or approval from anyone but yourself.

Strong personalities are immune to unfounded criticism. They acknowledge constructive feedback but remain unmoved by unfounded criticism or personal attacks. Their ability to remain steadfast in their convictions and self-belief can be frightening to people who rely on criticism as a means of control or manipulation.

"When I am criticized, I can defend myself, but against praise I am powerless." Sigmund Freud.

2. You can't stand ignorance, insensitivity, idiocy and carelessness.

A person with a strong character values ​​important things, those that do not waste his time and that bring him well-being: good friendships, people who are easy to communicate with, emotional partners with whom you can laugh, having enriching commitments... All this means that you do not tolerate too much those who act selfishly, those who do not know how to appreciate the simplest things, those who are careless about their duties and show ignorance, insensitivity, idiocy.

“Spelling errors in writing are like a crushed bug on a white blouse,” said Faina Ranevskaya.

Strong personalities have an innate disdain for mediocrity and incompetence. They refuse to tolerate ignorance, sloppiness, or a lackadaisical attitude toward responsibility. Whether in the workplace or in personal endeavors, they demand excellence and hold themselves and others to high standards.

"Before you diagnose yourself with depression and low self-esteem, make sure you are not surrounded by idiots." Sigmund Freud

Sigmund Freud said: "The first sign of stupidity is a complete lack of shame."

3. You are careful with your time and don’t like small talk.

There is nothing that irritates and frustrates you more than small talk. The reason is that small talk is a waste of your time; you want to have an interesting conversation.

Strong personalities are known for their unwavering commitment to productivity. They understand the value of time and prefer meaningful conversations that promote personal or professional growth.

While their efficiency is admirable, their reluctance to engage in idle chatter can be off-putting to those accustomed to "waiting and talking" about who went where, who wore what, and who ate what.

Sigmund Freud said about this:

"The masses have never known a thirst for truth. They demand illusions without which they cannot live."

4. You don't waste time on negativity and toxicity.

You are too happy to be alive and grateful for everything you have. Most people want to sit back and make a fuss about random stupid things. You don't have time for that and you're not interested in it. Why would you want to sit and complain about little things when there are so many opportunities out there.

People find it difficult to be around you because you often shut down their complaints and whining.

"The task of making man happy was not part of the plan of creation. Man must do it himself." Sigmund Freud

5. You achieve your goals at any cost.

You have an uncanny ability to find opportunities in unexpected places. You overcome challenges with tenacity and resourcefulness, often achieving your goals against all odds. Your ability to see opportunities where others see obstacles can breed envy and self-doubt in those who feel their own limitations more acutely than you do.

"The scale of a person is determined by the size of the problem that can drive him crazy," said Sigmund Freud.

6. You are fearless

Things that might deter and intimidate your friends and peers are a walk in the park for you; they piss people off.

The funny thing is that you are afraid of these things too, you are the same as your friend or colleague, but you refuse to let these things dictate how you live your life. So often you go where you are afraid.

Many people will mistake your fearlessness for arrogance and dislike you because of it.

"You don't have to look for strength and confidence outside yourself, you have to look for them inside yourself. They've always been there." Sigmund Freud

7. You hate excuses.

Excuses have no value in the world of strong personalities. They take full responsibility for their actions and decisions, refusing to hide behind excuses or shift blame to external factors.

If you have a strong personality, you don't have time to listen to people explain why they can't do something, because the only thing you can focus on is how to make something happen.

This may make others think you are insensitive, when in fact you simply don't let obstacles get in your way.

“Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom implies responsibility, and responsibility is frightening to most people.” Sigmund Freud

Which point did you like the most? How many qualities do you have? Share in the comments!