What You Shouldn't Say to Other People: Eastern Wisdom

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In the East, people know the value of words. Eastern sages have always advocated that one should talk about oneself much less. In modern times, filled with noise, where every thought and action immediately ends up in a post on social networks or comes to your acquaintances and friends in the form of voice messages in other messengers, the value of silence is often lost.

However, in Eastern wisdom traditions, restraint in speech is considered not only a virtue, but also a fundamental aspect of spiritual growth and happiness for each person. In cultures such as Hinduism, Buddhism, Taoism and others, there is a deep understanding of the importance of knowing what not to say.

What you shouldn't talk about according to Eastern wisdom:

1. Know how to hide your own and other people's secrets

Trust is sacred and is a common theme in many Eastern wisdom traditions. Confidentiality is paramount to building trust and meaningful relationships. Sharing personal information or disclosing confidential information not only undermines trust, it also reflects poorly on a person’s character.

2. Don't brag about your material wealth and successes

Humility is highly valued in Eastern philosophies, and bragging is seen as a sign of ego-driven behavior. The concept of metta, or loving-kindness, in Buddhism teaches us to speak with humility and modesty, recognizing the interconnectedness of all beings.

Boasting causes envy and other negative emotions in the people you show off to.

3. Gossip and criticism

The concept of Ahimsa in Hinduism and Buddhism emphasizes non-violence in all aspects of life, including speech. This principle teaches us to refrain from speaking in a way that could cause harm or suffering to others. Gossip, slander, and harsh words have the potential to cause wounds that may never fully heal. Instead, Eastern wisdom encourages speech that is kind, compassionate, and uplifting.

Eastern wisdom often reminds us of the limitations of our perception and the dangers of judging others. The Taoist philosophy of Wei Wu Wei encourages us to accept the natural flow of life without imposing our judgments or expectations on others. By refraining from judgmental statements, we cultivate an attitude of acceptance and compassion.

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4. Abstaining from lying

In the pursuit of truth, Eastern philosophies emphasize the importance of honesty in speech. Lying not only undermines trust, but also creates discord within a person. The Taoist concept of Zhen emphasizes the value of sincerity and authenticity. Being truthful in your words fosters honesty and strengthens genuine connections with others and with yourself.

Why you shouldn't talk about your happiness and joy

Most people are envious and often do not know how to rejoice in the successes of others. Most often, people rejoice only in appearance, in their souls, most immediately begin to think about why they do not have these achievements and successes.

Let's imagine a typical situation at work. You've been part of a team for many years, you have roughly the same work experience, the same salary, you go to lunch together, back each other up, etc. And suddenly your boss leaves for another job and you're appointed to this position, with a double salary increase. Do you think all your other colleagues and friends will be happy?

It turns out that instead of shared joy, there is a possibility that you will get extra problems.

Of course, there are people who know how to rejoice in your victories and successes.

Why you shouldn't share your problems and misfortunes

By revealing your vulnerability or difficulty to others, you inadvertently give them that information and provide them with food for influence on you. Eastern wisdom advises to be careful with those with whom you share your problems and misfortunes.

Of course, this does not apply to our closest people, because everyone should have at least one person with whom they can share all their sorrows and grief.

An Eastern proverb says: "Don't tell people that everything is fine with you - don't make them angry. Don't tell your enemies that everything is bad with you and how hard it is for you - don't make them happy. And in general: talk less, let those around you sleep peacefully."

In very similar words:

"Never tell others too much about yourself. Remember that in moments of envy the blind begin to see, the dumb speak, and the deaf hear.
Father Simeon said:
A good man sees all people as good, but an evil and wicked man not only sees them crookedly, but also suspects, reproaches, condemns, and slanders those who walk upright."

The less we open our souls, the better the world treats us and the less someone can use the information we reveal to others.

Do you agree with the Eastern wisdom? What else would you add?