"The Hidden Enemy": 9 Signs That Someone Wishes You Harm

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Of course, we all would like the people around us to be sincere with us, wish us well and rejoice in our successes.

But, in the tangled dance of human relationships, you can often meet people who harbor envy, hostility and other negative intentions towards us. Communication with such people will not lead to anything good, so it is very important to recognize secret ill-wishers in time and stop or significantly reduce communication with them.

Why would someone wish you harm? There are many reasons, maybe because they see you as a threat, a competitor, they have emotional issues, or they are generally angry at everything and everyone around them. Someone else's soul is a dark place. These people have their own deep-rooted issues that they end up transferring onto others, and there are times when you can become their next victim.

But how do you recognize them? Here are 9 signs that someone is trying to hurt you:

1. You feel uncomfortable, even strange, around them.

Do you know what it feels like to feel normal and what it feels like to feel weird?

When you interact with such people, you feel as if there is an unusual atmosphere in the air, and you don’t know how to explain it or how to get rid of it. They just make you feel uncomfortable. But since you don’t have any real and clear reasons to avoid them, you continue to interact with them.

Remember: intuition is one of the most powerful forces you have. Don't ignore it.

2. They make snide remarks and unpleasant jokes.

Causal jokes, offensive nicknames, caustic comments addressed to you.

A person who wishes the worst on you is someone who keeps putting you down over and over again, reminding you of your shortcomings and insecurities, but does so in a subtle, laughable manner.

3. You feel like he's leading you on.

Lies, lies, lies. We all tell harmless lies from time to time for various reasons. But someone who means you harm lies almost as often as they breathe.

You've witnessed it with your own eyes: They say one thing one day and something completely different the next. Or maybe you've seen them do it with other people and been amazed at how effortlessly and naturally they can spin an entire fictional story without flinching.

A person who lies so easily is a person you can never trust.

4. Devaluing your merits

They never rejoice at your successes.

Did you get a promotion at work or even find a new job? Are you having amazing success? This person doesn't care. You can tell them the best news in the world about yourself, and they'll act like it's just another Tuesday.

Moreover, they very often downplay your talents, achievements or contributions, saying that you were just lucky.

5. You have a feeling that they are manipulating you.

A manipulator is someone who doesn't see people as individuals.

People to them are just tools in their lives that they can use to get what they want.

They may use flattery, guilt, or gaslighting to manipulate your emotions and perceptions, ultimately aiming to undermine your confidence and manipulate you into fulfilling their plans.

6. They enjoy your misfortune.

There's a German word for "feeding on the misfortunes of others," schadenfreude, which literally translates to "evil joy." This is what evil people experience when they learn of or witness your misfortune. When something bad happens to you, they act like an anxious friend who just wants to know all the details. They'll pretend to be comforting you, but all they're really doing is probing for more information, they want to know every little detail. It's like they're savoring your misfortune.

7. They try to turn you against your friends.

If this person wishing you harm is not just a coworker or acquaintance, but someone who is actually part of your circle of friends and has access to all of your closest and dearest friends, then you have a problem.

The moment they decide they want to ruin your life, they can lie and manipulate you. Sooner or later, you will realize that your friends don't trust you anymore.

Making your friends turn away from you is the easiest way to make you feel lost and alone, so it is one of the most common things that these types of people do when they really want to hurt you.

8. Your relationship is one-sided

Being friends with someone who wishes you harm can be a tricky business. As long as you give them what they want, they will act like a friend to you right now. But if you go a week without talking to them, they will treat you like you are a stranger.

9. They use everything you give them against you and often set you up in small ways.

It seems like everything is friendly, a joke, but sometimes they allow themselves to mislead you in this way, to put you into a stupor.

For example, in the presence of other people, they start telling some kind of fable on your behalf or attributing something to you that you did not say.

If your “friend” has shown several of the signs listed above, then you need to stop communicating with him as soon as possible or significantly reduce it.

Why?

Because these are the types of people who will use any information you give them about yourself against you. Watch your language when this person is around you, because the last thing you need is their malice trying to hurt you.

Have you met such people? What other signs would you add? Share in the comments.