What a Woman Should Do If She Is Unhappy: Socrates' Wise Advice

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They say that happiness is a gift that is inside each of us, we just need to discover it. Do you agree with this statement?

I have a friend, a very smart woman. She has two higher educations, she is a very well-groomed attractive woman who works as a manager in a large company. She receives a very large salary per month, which the average person receives in a year. She lives in a luxurious place, drives the best cars and goes to the best resorts in the world three times a year.

However, she admits that she is unhappy. She has neither a husband nor children, and the one she was waiting for got married last year.

"If I were a little dumber, I would be happy. I wouldn't think about trifles, I would get married young, to the first person I met, I would have three children, close in age. Every day I would think only about whose teeth came in and what to cook for dinner," she once exclaimed in her heart.

- So this is the life you want?

"Yeah, like everyone else. Like those families in the commercials where the kids are sitting at the table while their mother makes pancakes. I want to be that kind of mother," she says, oblivious to the fact that those people in the commercials want to live like her.

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Another story about another woman.

One woman really wanted to have a child, but she couldn't do it, no matter what she and her husband tried. They had lived together for many years, having started dating in school. They had money, so after five years of unsuccessful attempts, the doctor again prescribed them different treatments, which were extended for another five years.

One day, another doctor said that perhaps it was because she and her husband were genetically incompatible.

So she left her husband and in her desperate desire to have a child, she found a second man, then a third, and so on. Finally, after years of trying, she gave birth to a child, who turned out to be sick.

In the quiet of her bedroom, she confessed to her mother that this was not what she wanted, not the life she had dreamed of. She was unhappy.

But what is happiness?

The wise Socrates said:

"Common logic says: if you are unhappy, then you do not have happiness. And if you do not have it, then go and look for it.

Paradoxical logic says: if you go looking for happiness, you will lose it! Just sit down and understand that you have it."

We always strive for something unattainable, for something more, thinking that only then we will be happy. But in this race we forget that we can be happy right now.

Man by nature strives for perfection and to achieve his goals. He is always looking for something more, dissatisfied with the current situation. In the constant race for success and perfection, we forget that true happiness is in the moment, in the present moment.

We often think that only by reaching a certain point - be it material success, career growth, marriage or some other event - will we be truly happy. However, often after reaching this goal, we do not get as much satisfaction as we expected. We already look further, set new goals, and so the endless cycle continues.

Sometimes it is worth stopping and realizing that right now, in this moment, we can find happiness. Happiness cannot be constantly postponed for later, we need to learn to appreciate and enjoy the little things, find satisfaction in every day and every breath.

To feel true happiness, you need to accept yourself and your life as it is, learn to live here and now. After all, only in this moment can we truly enjoy life and feel true happiness. And only by accepting yourself and your life, by stopping running, you can understand how to improve your life and make it happier.

What do you think about this? Do you know how to live here and now? Share in the comments!