Why You Became Bad for Someone, Whom You Should Marry, and Other Life Lessons from Leo Tolstoy

Leo Tolstoy has undoubtedly written his name into the history of literature as one of the greatest writers of all time. His works, such as War and Peace and Anna Karenina, have become classics of world literature and have left an indelible mark on the hearts of millions of readers around the world.

Lev Tolstoy was the father of 13 children and a vegetarian. By the age of 60, he could read 13 foreign languages. At 67, he learned to ride a bicycle. He gave most of his fortune to peasants and founded 13 schools for children from low-income families. Leo Tolstoy was a man of broad views and convictions, an active public figure and publicist. His works contained deep philosophical thoughts about the meaning of life, morality, faith and human values. He openly spoke out against violence, inequality and oppression, believing that every person has the right to freedom and justice.

With his extraordinary personality, Leo Tolstoy inspired and delighted people of his time, and his ideas still arouse interest and discussion.

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Today we have a selection of the best quotes from Leo Tolstoy.

1. Everything comes in time for those who know how to wait.

Of course. All people want everything at once. And if a person starts a business, he wants instant results, and gets upset if they do not happen. In our age of rapid speeds and changes, people lack patience. The ability to wait is an art that teaches us patience, endurance, and faith. Because everything comes on time for those who have learned to wait.

We cannot always predict when success, love, or changes will come to our lives, but it is important to remember that everything happens in its own time. Do not lose hope if something does not happen right away. Maybe this is just preparation for something better than you could imagine.

2. Marriage is a boat in which two people are sailing on a stormy sea. If one of the two makes a sudden move, the boat sinks.

It is the actions of both spouses that are important to maintain balance and stability in the relationship. If one spouse makes a sudden move without taking into account the feelings and needs of the partner, the boat may begin to list and eventually sink. It is important that both spouses respect each other, listen and understand, support each other in difficult times and rejoice in successes.

In order for a marriage to remain strong and long, mutual understanding, compromise, tolerance and a willingness to work on the relationship together are necessary. Only in this case will the couple be able to overcome difficulties and stay afloat even in the most turbulent moments of life.

3. If no one noticed your departure, most likely you left for a reason.

Sometimes we leave our jobs, break off relationships, leave acquaintances and friends, hoping that our departure will be noticed, and “they will regret that we left.” But, unfortunately, it also happens that no one pays attention to our departure. And this is not always bad. Perhaps our departure is really justified, and we were not appreciated or respected in this situation.

Therefore, often leaving is not always a loss. Sometimes it is a step towards self-knowledge, towards the realization of one’s own value, towards new opportunities and horizons. Whether it is a job, a relationship or a friendship, if our departure remains unnoticed, perhaps this is a sign that the road is open for something new, for someone who will truly appreciate and support us.

4. Everyone wants to change humanity, but no one thinks about how to change themselves.

Many of us strive to change the world and the people around us. We see many problems, misunderstandings and conflicts and try to fix them. However, we often forget that real changes must begin with ourselves.

Each of us has shortcomings that can prevent us from building harmonious relationships with other people. Therefore, it is important to recognize our mistakes, try to work on them and strive to become better every day. Ultimately, great changes in the world can begin with small changes in ourselves.

5. I don't have everything I love. But I love everything I have.

Often we focus on what we don't have, forgetting to acknowledge and appreciate what we already have in our lives. Acknowledging and being grateful for what we do have helps us truly enjoy and appreciate every moment in life.

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6. Most men demand from their wives virtues that they themselves are not worthy of.

It is important to remember that ideal relationships are built on mutual respect, support and equality. No one should demand more from the other than they are willing to give. Both parties should strive to develop themselves and their relationship, supporting each other along the way. It is important to discuss and resolve any problems or disagreements in the relationship, find compromises and strive for mutual respect.

7. It is easier to live without love. But without it there is no point.

Of course, it can be much easier to live without love, without pain, suffering, disappointment and separation. However, love is an integral part of our lives, it gives meaning to our actions, motivates us to self-expression, growth and development. Love in all its manifestations - for family, friends, partner, for the world as a whole - makes our life quality, fills us with joy, satisfaction and happiness. So, although it can be easier to live without love, it is love that makes our life full and meaningful.

8. Respect was invented to cover the empty space where love should be.

Sometimes people can show respect without feeling real love or care for the other person. But respect alone cannot fill the emotional void that love can fill.

9. The power of the government rests on the ignorance of the people, and it knows this, and therefore will always fight against education, it is time for us to understand this.

People must strive for education, awareness and understanding to counteract potential manipulation. Education can be the means to create a prosperous society in which stable and sustainable development can be achieved.

10. We have many rules, but no truth.

In today's world, we increasingly encounter situations where existing rules do not always correspond to reality. Often, rules and laws can be distorted, changed or circumvented in favor of those who have power or resources. This can lead to inequality, corruption, injustice and disorder in society. And in such conditions, the true truth can be difficult to find. Therefore, it is important to remember that laws and rules should serve the interests of all members of society, and not just a narrow group of people or organizations.

11. If suddenly you became bad for someone, it means that you did a lot of good for this person.

When we find ourselves in a situation where someone starts to perceive us as a bad person, it may be a sign that we have done something wrong or disappointed that person. However, it is important to remember that if someone has a negative opinion of us, it does not necessarily mean that we are bad people.

There is a good proverb: Help a hundred times - they will forget. Refuse once - they will remember.

Maybe you did a lot of good for this person in the past, but this time you refused, and he immediately begins to perceive you as a bad person. And this story is not about you, but about him.

We all make mistakes and have shortcomings, but that shouldn't define our overall quality as a person. It's important to accept ourselves as we are and strive to improve.

12. One should not marry for love, but certainly for calculation, only understanding these words exactly the opposite of how they are usually understood,

i.e. marry not for sensual love and for calculation of where and how to live, but for the calculation of how likely it is that the future wife will help, and not interfere with living a human life.

Everyone chooses their own reason for getting married. There are relationships that are born out of love and quickly fall apart. And there are those that are built on calculation and only get stronger over the years. In any case, in addition to calculation or love, there should be respect, trust, and compatibility in the relationship.

I wonder what you think about these statements? Which quote did you like the most? Write in the comments.