8 Things You Should Never Say to a Man

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There are many things you can say to a man to make him feel loved and appreciated. Men love to be praised, to have their opinions asked, to have questions asked. But there are phrases that men don't want to hear. And, contrary to stereotypes about male strength, it is very easy to hurt a man's ego.

Before you say anything, remember this rule: silence is golden. There are a few phrases that no man would like to hear

So, here are 8 things you should never say to a man:

1. "You always..." or "You never..."

These are two phrases that you should never say to a man because they always carry negativity. They also subconsciously make the other person defensive.

These phrases can make your man feel like he is being unfairly attacked and he will most likely strike back and start saying nasty things to you.

Moreover, this phrase is always untrue, because we often exaggerate when we say this phrase. “You never wash the dishes…” (this is untrue, at least once in his life he washed them), “You always get offended when…” (this is also untrue, there were cases when he did not get offended), etc.

2. "And my ex..."

Never compare your ex to your current man, especially if your “ex” did something better. Men hate comparisons, especially with their predecessors. It hurts their ego immensely, makes them jealous and lose confidence.

3. "You're not made for this."

Questioning a man's competence and skills is a very unpleasant thing to do. When a man fails at something, it is already irritating. Especially if someone he knows did the same thing much better. Men are always subconsciously competing with each other, and very rarely know how to cope with failures. When you witness such a situation, do not make fun of him, compare him to others, or show malice. It does not take much to make a man with a damaged ego feel hopeless.

4. "Come on, I'll do it myself"

It's good if you can do a lot yourself, because independence is valuable. However, when he wants to do something for you, let him do it. A man likes to feel that he is useful and important.

5. "You're hopeless" (criticism in a group)

The best way to hurt or anger a man is to criticize him publicly, mercilessly, or unjustifiably. Never humiliate him in front of his friends or family. No man can handle that kind of low blow very well. If you have something unpleasant to say to him, do it in private. Men prefer to impress, not to be seen as losers or lackeys. Openly humiliating him will make him feel less like a man.

6. "Choose: either friends or me"

When you set such conditions, you may be unpleasantly surprised that he chooses friends who have been with him for many years. You can't force a man to choose, because he does not do it in favor of the one who offers him this choice.

7. "You are just like your mother/father"

Unkind words about his loved ones, complaints and constant criticism of his relatives can have unpleasant consequences. Even if you think that the comparison is appropriate, refrain from it. There are certain sacred things in life that cannot be touched, because it causes deep pain. There is also a possibility that he simply does not want to hear such things because he had a difficult childhood or has difficult relationships with loved ones.

8. "My mother warned me that you...!"

Something must have really pissed you off because saying that sentence is tantamount to letting him know that your mom doesn’t like him. You should never let other people’s opinions affect your relationship. If your mom has expressed an opinion in a fit of worry and that opinion bothers you, find a way to discuss it with your man in a calm environment. Don’t blame him or attack him. Watch your language. In the end, coming to a mutual decision will feel much better than saying hurtful words.

What do you think about this? What other phrases would you add? Share in the comments.