How to distinguish a worthy person from a fake person: 7 tips

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When you look at a quiet lake, its surface appears calm, reflecting the world around it. But if you dive underwater, you will see a completely different landscape – hidden depths, currents and life that you would not imagine from the surface.

People, like this lake, often present a flawless image, but underneath it lies their true nature, which has yet to be discovered.

The bottom is not visible under the thickness of the water

And only by diving will you see what it is like.

So a person - he says one thing,

But often it does something completely different.

As they say, someone else's soul is a dark place.

Anton Chekhov, a master of understanding human nature, once said:

"There are too many screws, wheels and valves in each of us for us to judge each other by first impressions or by two or three external signs."

His work is full of wisdom about the complexity of human character, and today let's dive into seven of his lessons on how to tell the real people from those wearing masks.

Here are 7 tips to help you distinguish a worthy person from a fake one.

1. About education

"A good person can be ashamed even in front of a dog."

True decency is not just a show. It is deep and reflected in how a person treats the most vulnerable of those around him. As Chekhov notes, a truly kind person does not simply save his kindness for those who can repay him in kind - he is compassionate even to such a simple creature as a dog. Beware of people who are polite in public but rude in private. Decency is constant in all respects, both large and small.

2. About drunkenness

"How sweet he is when he's sober!"

Alcohol has a unique ability to reveal what lies beneath the surface. As Chekhov noted, no matter how well a person hides his faults, drinking often brings them to light. Pay attention to how people behave when they let down their guard – often at such moments you see their true character.

Can you trust someone who loses control? A person who cannot maintain respect for themselves or others when they are in trouble may lack the foundation of integrity that supports strong relationships.

3. About quarrels

"When people love each other, they don't quarrel, but calmly sort things out."

Chekhov believed that decent people do not allow anger or quarrels to define their relationships. When disagreements arise, they seek to resolve them with understanding, not with harsh words or manipulation.

Decency is reflected in how a person handles conflict: does he listen? Does he maintain respect? Or does he shout, insult, and throw tantrums?

True love and respect never shout - they understand and heal.

4. About love

"It is not true that all love passes with time. No, true love does not pass, but comes with time. Not immediately, but gradually you comprehend the joy of getting closer to your beloved woman."

True love, as Chekhov understood it, does not fade with time, but deepens. Those who truly love do not move from one relationship to another, declaring passion only to let it evaporate.

As the Jewish proverb goes, "If love is gone, it never existed."

Time is the greatest test of all emotions.

5. About intelligence and modesty

"Only fools and charlatans know and understand everything"

"A smart person loves to learn, but a fool loves to teach."

Chekhov reminds us that true intelligence is always accompanied by humility. Beware of people who believe they have all the answers or who brag about their knowledge. True wisdom comes from understanding that there is always more to learn. A decent person seeks to grow, not to impress others with their supposed superiority.

6. About the purity of the soul

"Everything in this world is relative. There are people who are corrupted even by children's literature, who read with particular pleasure the piquant passages in the Psalter and the Proverbs of Solomon.

There are also those who, the more they become acquainted with the dirt of life, the purer they become. Publicists, lawyers and doctors, initiated into all the secrets of human sin, are not known as immoral."

Some people, despite being surrounded by negativity, maintain a pure heart. Chekhov believed that those who truly understand life, especially its dark sides, are not corrupted by it. On the contrary, they become more compassionate, more forgiving. A decent person does not make hasty judgments or look for the worst in others. Instead, he looks for the good, knowing that everyone has their own difficulties.

7. Main conclusion

Ultimately, Chekhov simplifies the complexity of human relationships by reducing them to one essential truth: no one is perfect, no absolute distinction between good and evil, wise and foolish. What matters most is whether he is “your man.” Integrity, in this sense, is finding those whose actions match their words, whose values ​​reflect yours, and who bring kindness into your life.

Anton Pavlovich Chekhov writes:

“There are no good, bad or kind people.

There is no such thing as cute, beautiful, or evil.

There are only two types of people, nothing more:

Your man and a man who is not yours."

People may wear masks, but with time and understanding their true character always emerges. And as Chekhov wisely advised, seek out those who bring light into your life, because they are the ones truly worth preserving.

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