5 Sneaky Phrases Narcissists Use to Tear Down Your Confidence

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Narcissists often project their insecurities and low self-esteem onto others. If you know a narcissist, it is important to know that you should not take the things he or she says personally. The following sentences are often deliberately used by narcissists to damage your self-confidence:

1. You are so dramatic

By saying this, a narcissist makes someone believe that this person is to blame for this unpleasant situation. The narcissist probably did something (consciously) that hurt the other person, but by making this statement, he makes the other person doubt his or her state of mind. He (or she) also says with this statement that the other person's feelings do not matter and that they are not important enough.

2. You have no idea what you are talking about

It is not fun to hear that what you are saying is not good enough or important enough. By saying the phrase, “You have no idea what you are talking about,” the narcissist gives off a vibe that he is intellectually superior to the other person. The words can hurt and make you feel ashamed. While the narcissist often says this to get out of something he himself has done wrong.

3. It's all your fault

It's probably not your fault at all, but suppose it is your fault. Then the narcissist will use this against you again and again. Because he uses the phrase: "It's all your fault" when it is absolutely not your fault, so imagine if you have made a mistake. He will use your (innocent) mistake again and again to justify his (much worse behavior).

4. You are so insecure

And once again you are being blamed for something, this time for being insecure. A normal person doesn’t get a kick out of someone else’s insecurity or fear, but a narcissist is not a normal person. And the irony is: he is the person who is incredibly insecure. But he is projecting his insecurity onto you.

5. You are…. (fill in an offensive word on the dotted lines)

When their manipulative behavior fails and the narcissist doesn’t get what they want, they will sometimes use verbal abuse. You are stupid, you are useless, you are a loser could be phrases the narcissist throws out. Know that these terms have nothing to do with you! Ignore the accusations and walk away! No one has the right to treat you this badly, never forget that!