Money.
One of a man’s biggest insecurities is their financial situation, maybe you don’t have a super nice car, maybe your style is out of date, and maybe you can’t afford to go on fancy dates. When men look at their financial situation as an insecurity, their confidence falls and they either do one of the following; They shut down, or they “cap”. One thing a man should never do is CAP.
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Capping is when a man claims to have certain items, connections, opportunities that he really doesn’t have, in order to seem higher than himself and others. A man should never have to cap to impress a woman. Dazzle her with what you DO have rather than what you don’t. Most women can see right through this façade and it can be one of the BIGGEST turnoffs. Always look at your situation as an opportunity to grow. In order to grow, you must first target the problem. Do you have bad spending habits? Or maybe you should look for something that pays better.
ALWAYS be careful when using credit. ESPECIALLY with women.
One of the easiest ways a man’s bank account can go from 10 to 0 is overspending on women. This also goes back to capping, don’t spend with your credit card what your paycheck can’t handle. You have 2 guys, Eric and Jesse. Eric just met a girl and wants to impress on his first date, so he takes her out to Olive Garden, Eric is spending on credit, so on the outside he looks like he’s got the money to pay for dinner but really in Eric’s bank account he only has $20 to get him to work for the rest of his week. Guess what? ERIC IS CAPPING! He can’t afford to take this woman out but since he is insecure about the financial situation he chooses to cap.
Jesse, on the other hand, isn’t insecure and he KNOWS that he doesn’t have the money to spend on a nice dinner. So instead he offers to take the girl out to one of the many parks in Houston that is TOTALLY FREE. You can get to know a girl very well while sitting with her in nature, she will be calm and more open with you. There is plenty of ways to cut down on spending when going out.
You should always be upfront and honest about your finances, IF YOU EVER MEET A GIRL who refuses to go out with you because you don’t SPEND MONEY, she’s not interested in you for the reasons you want. In the long run, Jesse’s honesty will pay off and maybe his date will offer to pay here in there because she understands, Eric, however, isn’t communicating his situation and he will continue pushing himself further in debt to catch up with his CAPPING.
In conclusion, be honest about your finances and if you aren’t pleased with your situation WORK TO IMPROVE! Never be a capper, and if you need to impress a woman with money, then she isn’t the woman for you.
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