We'd been too overwhelmed to track down summer camps and get on registration waiting lists, and spots were starting to fill up. We had to make some decisions — and fast.
Then we had a crazy idea. What if we just … did nothing?
No summer camp — no formal childcare at all. Would we all turn on each other by the end of the summer? Or could we somehow find a way to survive while working from home? We decided to give it a shot and find out.
We decided to keep our oldest at home this summer
We have two daughters: a 9-year-old and a 3-year-old. Though our younger one would still be in day care all week, we decided to keep our oldest home and her schedule relatively clear.
There were a few reasons this made sense for our family.
First was the cost. Most day camps in our area cost at least $200 a week, and that's being conservative. After a few weeks, our childcare expenses could get out of hand — especially at a time when our budget was already hurting.
Our daughter also didn't seem overly thrilled about most camp options out there. Many of the affordable ones are glorified day cares. Specialty camps that better suited her interests, like marine-science camp, were even more expensive. She'd rather hang out with her friends, so it seemed silly to break the bank on camps she didn't even want to attend.
Finally, as she's gotten older, she's become super involved in sports . This summer, she was on the swim team at our community pool and had soccer practice a few evenings a week. Ensuring she rested up for sports and wasn't exhausted from go-go-going all day was another big factor in this grand experiment.
The author kept his daughter home from summer camp and day care this summer.
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My daughter and I got more quality time together than usual
There's this myth around "quality time," or the idea that you can schedule important moments with your loved ones. In reality, you have to just be around them a lot and be ready for those meaningful moments when they happen naturally.
I got that with my daughter this summer. Not every day was a magical bonding experience. But when I look back, I remember laughing while playing video games together in the afternoon, having lunch with her every day, sneaking off to the pool after wrapping up work, and those few-and-far-between moments when she actually wanted to talk.
It was also nice to have a slower pace to our days. With no set time to arrive at preschool for our little one and no camps to rush off to, everyone in the household could sleep in just a little bit longer. We also had plenty of time to get ready for evening soccer practice and prepare dinner.
It was a nice break for us — and more importantly, for her. She works hard during the year with school, sports, and clubs. Even when she was bored and stuck watching TV, she repeatedly told me she was happy to have the downtime.
To make it all work, we also enlisted some help from the grandparents . Once or twice a week, one of my daughter's grandmas would take her out shopping or to lunch for a few hours so I could get some focused work time. I know they all loved getting the time together that's so hard to get during the school year.
The author said his daughter's grandmothers sometimes watched her to help them get through the summer.
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Not everything worked smoothly
I went to a few summer camps as a kid, but I also spent a lot of summers running around the neighborhood with friends "until the streetlights came on," as the old cliché goes.
In theory, I thought my daughter would do a lot of that this summer, but it didn't quite work out that way.
We live in Atlanta, where it's way too hot to be outside during most of the summer. I also didn't consider that most of my daughter's friends would be in camp themselves or otherwise on vacation. There were a few playdates, but no one was around a lot of the time.
It kind of defeats the purpose of having an old-school summer if no one else is having one.
I'm a little embarrassed to admit that my daughter ended up watching a lot more TV and having more iPad time than we'd initially planned. After all, I have a flexible job as a blogger, freelance writer, and author. But at some point, even I had to buckle down and get some work done. With no friends around and blazing temperatures outside, TV became a big help.
I also have to admit that while I cherished the quality time we had together, there's such a thing as too much time with your kids. I sometimes became frustrated and claustrophobic having my daughter on my hip all summer when I was trying to juggle work and other household responsibilities .
Our family didn't completely thrive during our summer of no childcare, but we did survive. And we saved a fortune by avoiding summer camps — which worked for our household because my wife and I both work from home and my schedule has a lot of flexibility.
The ups and downs of this summer already seem like a distant memory as we get reacclimated to the hectic school schedule. Both my girls will be out of school next summer, and we'll face the same conundrum again — only double! I don't know exactly how we'll handle it yet, but this summer experiment was a great learning experience for our family.
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