10 Ways To Keep Your Sparkle Shining

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Are there days when you feel like you are a diamond glittering in the light, and then others when your sparkle has been dimmed? We all have both kinds of days, but here are ten ways to insure you have more days when your light shines brightly.

· Block out the noise. Interactions with others can be energy drainers, and navigating a variety of personalities can be difficult. Everyone has an opinion, and sometimes what people say can leave you shaking your head in disbelief.

I am a people pleaser and a conflict avoider, so I often do my best to not escalate a situation by arguing or responding to a crazy comment. What I have learned is my chances of changing someone’s attitude are slim, but I don’t have to internalize what was said to me. We need to know our own truth and know that because someone has a negative opinion of us doesn’t make it so. Don’t listen to the crazy voices telling you how you should be and instead be yourself.

· Seek out good people. I decided to be more focused on choosing good people to be around me. I started adding friends on social media who were friends with the people I enjoy the most. I can feel a positive shift already. I have also eliminated a few people who are not really my friends. I’m adopting an attitude of quality not quantity when it comes to friends.

· Let go of toxic. I have held on to bad relationships or been in bad situations way too long. I always think I can fix the person or the situation. I worked with several women who were hateful. I kept wondering if it was something I was doing, but when I would tell my husband the situation, he would say, “Jen, they are mean. Stay away from them.” Have you ever been in a job you hate, but you stay there because you tell yourself it will become better, but it never does? Are you in a relationship that doesn’t make you happy, but you don’t want to leave because you have invested so much time? It might be time to throw out the toxic.

· Do what fills you and choose joy. Do what makes you happy no matter who judges you for it. I have a friend who likes to ride her bike around her neighborhood at midnight. When she told a friend, the friend thought that was crazy. People will judge you no matter what, so go ahead and have fun!

· Draw your boundaries. Others will take advantage of you if you do not let them know what you consider to be okay, and what you refuse to accept.

· Spread kindness and encouragement. Spreading kindness and encouragement helps increase your shine. You can feel it becoming brighter with every new act of kindness you perform.

· Do something epic. Anytime you do something extraordinary it makes your light shine brighter and inspires others.

· Laugh a lot. Laughter is healing, it recharges us, and it is contagious. What a great way to spread your light.

· Run away and recharge. We all need to regroup and recharge sometimes. If I’m feeling this way, I curl up under some blankets and nap or read.

· Go outside and disconnect. Nature has energy and it’s a great way to connect with the beauty around us. It’s also important to disconnect from technology sometimes because it can be a drain on our shine.

I hope these ten ideas help you shine brighter!