The Importance of Your Why

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We can all feel lost sometimes. We lose our way, and feel stuck in our daily routine, or the goals we have don’t seem to be working. These are the times we need to start asking why about the different aspects of our lives. We can be so caught up in a busy lifestyle that we forget our why for what we do, and who we are with, but our why can be our driving force.

Take a minute and ask why for the different parts of your life. Here are a few examples.

Relationships

Why are you attracted to certain people? Do the people in your relationships have those qualities? Why would you stay in a relationship that does not fulfill you and make you better?

I do not let go of a relationship easily even when I know it is toxic. I keep thinking I can make it better, but when a relationship makes you question your value, and doesn’t help you grow, it’s time to let go. You might be in a relationship that fulfills you and brings you joy. Treat that person like the treasure he or she is.

Make a list of why your relationships work, or why they don’t. Communicate with friends and family about what is working, or what needs to be fixed.

Self-care

Do you take good care of yourself? Why would good self-care be important? You can’t take good care of others if you haven’t taken care of yourself first. Set some boundaries about what you need and make some goals for good health.

The job

Why have you chosen your job? If it does not bring you joy, why are you still there?

I hear people complaining about their jobs all the time, but they are not willing to make a change. I love hearing about someone who loves what she does. This is usually someone who can instantly tell you why she finds joy in something.

Asking about your why can reconnect you to what brings you joy. Sometimes when you reflect on your answers, you realize it is time for a reset.