How to Guard Your Peace

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How to Guard Your Peace

We are bombarded by issues, emotions, drama, and noise every day. We have to find a way to filter out the negative to stay healthy mentally. Here are a few ideas that should help.

Humor

Humor can diffuse most negative situations. When something embarrassing happens to you and you can laugh about it, not only do you feel better about it, but you also make yourself more approachable, and you will ease any awkwardness the situation may have caused. If the situation involves someone trying to make you look bad, you take away her weapons when you can laugh at yourself. Don’t give someone the negative reaction he was hoping for.

Let other’s own their issues

If you are a people person and a problem solver like me, you probably want to help everyone with their issues, but those are burdens that are too heavy for you to bear. You can offer empathy, but let others solve their issues.

Don’t engage in drama

It takes at least 2 people to create a drama, and once the fire is started, you may end up getting burned, so think twice before joining the drama party, because all that conflict can wear you out.

Hear the whole story before reacting

Have you ever reacted before you heard the whole story only to find out you would have reacted very differently if you had heard all the facts? We have all jumped on the judgment bus too quickly at one time or another. Take the time to investigate everything that happened.

Realize it’s not personal

When someone creates drama, it usually stems from an issue someone else has, and actually has nothing to do with you. Don’t let your feelings be hurt because someone else has a perception that is off kilter.

Know how to destress

Life can be chaotic and stressful, so you need to have your anti-stress weapons. Use what works to help you eliminate stress. Some people use cooking, music, reading, or movement. Find what works for you.

Disconnect

I have times when I have to turn off my phone, my computer, and the television, and run away from people. Usually, I take a good book and swing in the hammock. We all need those moments when we don’t need to interact.

Find your quiet time

Carve out some time in your day when you can sit and be quiet or go for a run or walk by yourself. I have gotten up early before and had coffee on the deck. The quiet is healing.