Why You’re Attracting All the Wrong Men

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This article was written with the help of AI.

Ever find yourself asking, “Why do I keep attracting the wrong men?” You’re not alone. Many women find themselves stuck in a cycle of dating guys who never seem to be a good fit—emotionally unavailable, non-committal, or just not on your level. The truth is, it’s not just bad luck, and it’s not something you’re destined for. There’s a pattern at play, and recognizing it is the first step to breaking free.

One major reason you might be attracting the wrong men is your own energy. What you project to the world can unintentionally draw in the very people you’re trying to avoid. For example, if you’re coming from a place of fear—afraid of being alone, afraid of not being enough—you may attract partners who sense that insecurity and use it to their advantage. Instead of someone who values and respects you, you end up with someone who reflects your own doubts and fears.

Another common trap is settling for what’s familiar. If you’ve been in toxic relationships before, you might unconsciously seek out the same dynamics, even though you know it’s not good for you. Familiarity feels safe, even when it’s far from healthy.

The good news? You can break the cycle. Start by getting clear on what you want, and more importantly, what you deserve. Set standards for yourself and don’t be afraid to walk away when someone doesn’t meet them. The right man will rise to the occasion—you just need to create space for him.

Discover how to become his secret obsession today!