Astounding Truths of Cohabitating Before Marriage: Convenience or Commitment?

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Many couples today live together before marriage. I know couples who get so comfortable living together that they skip the formality of marriage altogether. Common law marriage used to be a thing; maybe it should be reinstated in every state. What are your thoughts? Is marriage just a legal contract or a sacred commitment?

Reasons To Live Together Before Marriage

There are many reasons people choose to live together prior to marriage. Sometimes, they get tired of driving back and forth; other times, they spend so much time with each other that they wonder why they are paying rent in two places. Rent is outrageous these days, so who could blame a couple for wanting to save money? A test run may be a good idea-- get to know the person inside and out.

Reasons Not to Live Together Before Marriage

In 2023, a study found that couples who cohabitated before marriage were 48% more likely to divorce. Although living together is not explicitly mentioned in the bible, fornication is. Sleeping together before marriage is still a sin. Even though it is more socially acceptable in our modern world, it doesn't make it morally right. I am not sure if it makes it more attractive to our suitors, either.

Final Thoughts

Many people see living together as a relationship milestone and a level of commitment. But is it really a trap? Most of the time, it is a convenient decision, not a long-term commitment. It certainly complicates things. Like marriage, you now have to divide shared assets if you split. But you don't legally have to stay together. So... it makes leaving much easier if there is a big argument. It doesn't create the safety you ultimately want in the end. However, if you are willing to accept your person's flaws and all, why not take the plunge and go all in with your sacred vows?

So, what are your thoughts? Is it better to live together before marriage or not?

Thank you for taking the time to read this. I appreciate you.

Peace & Light,

Libby