Navigating the Friend Zone: How to Move Forward

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Imagine meeting someone who checks off the list of everything you have been looking for. You enjoy a nice dinner out, gaze into their eyes with lust and admiration, laugh together for hours, and then go home, and it's radio silence for days. Absolute crickets. What the heck happened? Ohhhhh, BAM...you soon find out you have been friend-zoned. They call and ask for advice on meeting another person, and now you are stuck in the middle. They seemingly have no idea you are so attracted to them, but how could that be? Maybe they do know and clarify that they think you are cute but just want to be friends. Ugh, the ultimate kick in the gut.

What to Do If You Suspect You Are Friend Zoned

First, it is essential to realize that being this person's greatest ally is essential. Next, understand that there are many reasons why they may have friend-zoned you, including insecure attachment styles and fear of commitment. Don't assume they are not attracted to you or jump to conclusions about their feelings. If they are keeping you around, that is a sign of trust and respect; take that for what it is and build on that friendship. It may or may not lead to something more romantic. Give it some time.

Friendship is the foundation of any successful relationship. If you genuinely care about this person, the label of your relationship shouldn't matter as much as the time you spend together and the depth of your understanding of each other. Yes, they might try to set you up with others, but consider it a compliment. They wouldn't do that if they didn't hold you in high regard. As frustrating as it might be if your intentions are pure, stick around and see how compatible you are. If it feels too painful and your feelings continue to hurt, leave because that is not true friendship, and your feelings are valid and important. Remember, your friendship is valuable and appreciated, regardless of the romantic aspect.

Final Thoughts

Men and women typically view being friend-zoned differently. Men are more physically oriented, whereas women are emotional. The friend zone may not be as big of an insult or an uncomfortable play for women because they take bonding very seriously and love the emotional connection. Having said that, it is hurtful for anyone who feels they are not 'chosen.' It leaves you feeling rejected. Your feelings and experiences are valid and important. Ultimately, being that person's close friend allows you to get to know them much better.

Consider the possibility that they might not be aware of your true feelings. It's okay to be a little flirty. You could even plan a romantic evening and dress up for the occasion. If you feel the time is right, you could make a move and kiss them. If they're uncomfortable with this, it's important to have a conversation about what boundaries should be in place for both of you. Are there specific topics that should be off-limits in your discussions? Who knows where this might lead, but you'll never find out if you don't take a chance and give it a try.

If you have needs that are not being met, then talk about it and date other people. But cherish the friendship if it is sincere because close friends are hard to find. Just keep your expectations realistic. If this person continues to tell you that they only see you as a friend, then accept that and move on to romance elsewhere.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. You are worthy of love and happiness.

Peace & Light,

Libby