6 Ways to Deal with a Boyfriend Who is Angry Over Trivial Things

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Have you ever been fine with your partner and suddenly the mood changed? He/she suddenly becomes grumpy and silent with the weapon of “it’s okay” when asked why. You immediately think of all sorts of things, starting from saying the wrong thing or misinterpreting it could be a possibility.

I can't stand it when he/she has to throw a tantrum over small things. You start to feel like you have the right to be angry when he/she has been throwing a tantrum for too long. You keep asking yourself, 'How long are you going to do this?'. Calm down, when dealing with him/her who throws a tantrum over small things, it's better not to get emotional. Try practicing this method.

1. Talk to him to find out what made him suddenly angry.

Even if he/she doesn't say a word, try to talk to him/her slowly. Ask him/her why he/she suddenly got angry with you. That way, you will also know what you did wrong. Your relationship will also grow because every problem is discussed thoroughly.

2. If he can't talk yet, you should give him some alone time. But ask first, okay

If he/she can explain why he/she is sulking, it means that Lady Luck is being kind to you. But if not, then maybe he/she is still holding back his/her emotions and can’t explain them right now. Usually, people who are sulking need time alone to calm down their feelings and emotions. But it’s best to ask him/her first, whether he/she needs time alone or not. If you don’t ask, he/she might misunderstand because you seem like you don’t care.

3. Keep giving him attention. Don't be indifferent, it will just lead to a second episode of war, you know.

Even though he needs time alone, you still have to care. Give him attention as usual, who knows his heart might melt. It doesn't feel good to still pay attention but the one who is given attention gets a flat response. You have to be patient, he is in an unstable emotional state. Don't just ignore him and stay silent, okay?

4. Don't use a high tone, it will only make him more sensitive.

You may try to fix the situation by still caring and trying to find out why he/she is sulking, but be careful if you start to get upset. Even if you are upset, there is no need to raise your voice. Try to keep him/her comfortable even in conditions that you don't like. After all, you are also happy if he/she can melt because of your efforts, right?

5. When his mood starts to improve, try to talk to him again.

He/she is starting to respond to your attention. Wow, that's a sign that he/she is getting better, right? Well, if it's like this, try to talk to him/her again. Ask him/her nicely what he/she felt earlier that made him/her suddenly become silent. Also, tell him/her how you felt when you were in that condition so that he/she also understands that you don't like it and don't want the same thing to happen again in the future.

6. When the situation is still the same or worse, maybe you should just keep quiet. It will get better on its own~

You've tried this and that, but he/she still grumbles. You can use your "right to remain silent" if it's like this. You can do this when you've tried but it seems in vain. He/she doesn't respond to anything from all the efforts you've made. Okay, if it's like this, it's better for you to just keep quiet. There will be a time when the emotions will subside, and he/she will greet you again. Your silence can also melt his/her emotions because he/she misses your presence. Hehe.

Small things can be a problem that disrupts your relationship with him. However, there are many ways to make him melt and stop complaining. The important thing is, don't face it with emotion. It could be worse later. By doing this, you can also learn to control your emotions, right?

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