Renting a House from My Husband's Dad's Wife Has Been Difficult For Me

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My husband and I are currently renting a beautiful house from his dad who owns the property. This arrangement is mutually beneficial for both parties, as we get to live in a lovely home and his dad gets some income from renting it out.

However, his dad's wife is a difficult person to deal with. She's always snarky and rude towards us, and I think it's because she's upset that my husband's dad didn't give the house to her son, who recently got evicted from his home with his wife and three kids. Although I do feel bad for the family, it's clear that my husband's dad made the right decision by renting the house to us instead.

Recently, my husband has been allowing his dad and his wife to come over to our house at all hours of the day to talk business, sign contracts, and so on. I'm not happy with this, especially since it interferes with our daily routine. For instance, one night they came over at 10 pm to work on paperwork, which I found unreasonable and disrespectful since I needed to put our 8-year-old to bed and take our dogs out for a walk.

To make matters worse, I don't know my husband's dad's wife very well, and she's always snarky and disagreeable with my husband, which makes him uncomfortable. I'm not sure if she's just joking around or if she really has an issue with us, but my husband has thick skin and he's used to jokes that I would consider rude. However, the situation is clearly bothering him, as he didn't even finish his dinner after they left and just went to bed.

I had a talk with my husband and told him that from now on, if I say it's too late for his dad and his wife to come over, they will have to schedule another day and time that works for us. It's important to remember that they're not doing us a favor by renting us the house - it's strictly business, and it's the most beneficial setup for both parties.

Despite my husband's desire to bond with his father, it's essential that he respects the boundaries I put in place and doesn't let his dad's wife dominate the conversation or say whatever she wants. She speaks to us like we're children, and that's not acceptable.

I don't know what to do. I plan on letting her know that she needs to be more respectful and tactful in her conversations with us, as we won't tolerate her rude behavior.