My In-Laws in My Boyfriend's Family Are So Messy That It Makes Me Want to Leave

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I have been with my boyfriend for three years, and last year in April, we moved in together. Things were great between us, and I was over the moon when I found out I was pregnant in May. However, when I was six months pregnant, my mother-in-law (MIL) and her three youngest kids (14F, 17M, 18M) asked if they could come to live with us after getting kicked out of her daughter's house for unknown reasons.

At first, I was happy to let them stay because I love them and felt bad for their situation. Unfortunately, everything went downhill quickly from there. My in-laws are messy, and they make a mess everywhere they go. The kitchen sink is always full of dirty dishes, the trash can is always overflowing, and the living room is always full of wrappers and clutter. My MIL constantly reorganizes the living room, brings her decorations into the apartment, and allows her youngest to bring her friends over.

Moreover, my MIL doesn't pay her share of the bills on time, sometimes not paying them at all. I can't leave anything in the fridge because it'll be gone by the time I come home. Being clean is crucial to me, and I've asked them several times to clean after themselves, but they don't change even after promising to do better.

Three months ago, my beautiful son was born, and since then, my in-laws have been crossing my boundaries. They come into my room to pick him up, look at him, and take pictures of him without my permission. They knock on my door to check on me when he's crying and try to tell me what my son prefers as if they know him better than I do. I can't have a conversation with my boyfriend anywhere in the apartment without someone listening in and even joining the conversation. I have no alone time.

All this has put a massive strain on my relationship with my boyfriend. We argue a lot, mainly because of his family. It doesn't help that they can hear all our arguments. My boyfriend says that they have nowhere else to go, and he will always take them in as long as they need him. I feel depressed, frustrated, and sometimes daydream of running away and living on my own with my son. I'm always uncomfortable, always locked up in my room, and always feel like I have to wear a mask around my apartment.

Our lease is up in four months, and I've made it clear to my boyfriend that I don't want to live with my in-laws ever again. He said he can't promise that because he doesn't want me to be disappointed in the future if they come with us again. I can't keep doing this anymore, and I feel like my mental health is being pushed to the side. I've considered moving back in with my parents, but I don't think I'd be able to afford living on my own with my son. I don't want to break up, but I'm at my wit's end.

If anyone has been in a similar situation, please let me know how it went for you. I'm ashamed to be in this situation.