My MIL Wants To Keep My Husband to Herself for My First Mother's Day

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I'm a new mom and my mother-in-law (MIL) wants my husband to spend Mother's Day with her. I'm currently not on speaking terms with her because she's been terrible to me, my husband, and our child. She has no respect for us and doesn't even pay attention to my 5-month-old son reaching out to me. My husband and I had agreed to spend the day together as a family and create lasting memories with our son. It's also an opportunity for my husband to bond with our child as he doesn't spend much time with him.

One day, while looking for some information, I stumbled across some Facebook Messenger conversations between my husband and MIL. My husband told me where to find it and I think he was hoping I would come across it. I found out that he lied to me about removing MIL's access to our account. Lucky for him, he had already told her she wasn't supposed to be logging in and needed to stop. But it's still a lie.

I also found out that MIL asked if we would be spending Mother's Day with her because my husband's half-brothers wouldn't be around. She even planned his entire weekend for him, including an event three hours from our house. My husband said he didn't know what our plans were, but MIL continued to plan his Mother's Day weekend. My husband has a deep drive to please his mother, despite everything she's done. He even has a nickname for her in our house - "the bitch".

I'm not sure what to do. My husband knows that I saw the messages and it was weeks before MIL started planning his weekend. He either wants me to get mad and say something about it or he's done it as a way so I can't say I didn't know it was coming. I don't want to blow it if he has a surprise planned, but he's extremely unromantic and never takes a hint that he needs to plan something. I'm just fed up with MIL being so disrespectful and inconsiderate all the time. She's already ruined our engagement, wedding, and gender reveal. Does she really have to ruin Mother's Day too? I want to spend the day with my family and create lasting memories.