Without telling me, my husband helped my rude mother-in-law move next door for my "protection"

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So my mother-in-law planned on moving in next to us, and my husband did it behind my back. He helped her move in and helped her find the place without me knowing. They both hid it from me and when I confronted both of them, they said, "It was for my protection" as if they were looking out for me and trying not to hurt me.

I felt so betrayed, especially by my husband, who knew how much his mother had hurt me in the past. She openly dislikes me and has verbally attacked me in one way or another whenever she is near me. I had set boundaries and told her I would no longer accept this treatment, but her solution was to move in next to us. She promised my husband that she would leave us alone, but I was not buying it.

I felt like my husband just gave her full access to me, which was not good. He knew how badly she had treated me, yet his family pushed him to do this and to help her. They encouraged him to care for his mom and give her whatever she wanted. I felt like this was a losing battle, and I just lost.

I was hurt and didn't know what to do. I couldn't believe my husband would do this to me. I thought about leaving him because this was really just crazy to deal with, but I didn't want to make any hasty decisions.

After some time, I realized that I couldn't continue living near my mother-in-law. I didn't feel safe or comfortable, and I knew that this would only create more tension between my husband and me. So I made the difficult decision to leave.

I found a new place to live and moved out yesterday. I am still in shock, but I knew this was coming. I had just hoped it wouldn't happen. That place is no longer my home, and it never will be. My husband is saying he is sorry and that he wants to "move" or move his mother out. I appreciated his apology, but it was too little too late.