Dear Abby: I confronted my mom about her affair — she told me to go to therapy

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DEAR BOB : Showing an interest in others is generally a good idea. However, some people might find your direct approach intimidating if it’s a conversation starter with no preamble. Asking who, what, when, where and why can be useful in conversation, as it also is when writing a news article.

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DEAR ABBY : I am in my late 20s. My mom and dad will soon have been married for 30 years. I accidentally found evidence recently that Mom is having an extramarital affair. When I confronted her, she said I should go to therapy to help deal with my overreaction to her “doing something I don’t like.” She totally ignored the fact that it’s not just a minor thing that I’m upset about, but something wrong, immoral, hurtful and disrespectful to my dad, my brother and me.

Mom and I were very close, but this has ruined our relationship. I feel like she is putting reconciliation all on me, which feels unfair. What do I do? — THROWN IN MARYLAND

DEAR THROWN : I am sure that what you discovered was a shock. However, you know nothing about the reason(s) your mother may be having an extramarital affair and whether your father knows about it. What’s going on has nothing to do with you and your brother. Please take your mother’s advice. Discuss this mess and your feelings about it with a licensed family therapist, and you may gain some insight.

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