Why do humans want to be loved?

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Love is inherent in Creation. It is everywhere.

When we get quiet, let go of our thoughts, ground ourselves in the moment, and simply remain aware — our heart speaks. We feel a certain connection with our surroundings; the tree looks bigger or more “present” than it was. There is a certain sense of communion with plants, animals, rocks, clouds, and so on.

Unfortunately, we humans are in general dominated by our own thoughts. We have become slaves to it. And it isn’t anyone’s fault. We’re born and conditioned to live this way. And unless we see the implications of a life governed by thought; its corruption and meaninglessness — we don’t change.

Obviously, thought has its place - but as a tool.

Another thing to keep in mind is that since in general we’re not much evolved in consciousness; “dog eat dog,” or “survival of the fittest,” it exposes the kind of dimension we live in, its naughtiness, and how being born on Earth naturally instills in us some form of limiting beliefs.

It’s not an easy feat to go against our conditioning. For years, we have been told that we are not good enough, for years others have hurt us, for years we believed to be undeserving of love, etc. These beliefs exist in our subconscious mind, and they pop their “head” up whenever it’s time for us to grow beyond our comfort zone.

Inherently again, therefore, we all assume to be “not good enough,” to be “undeserving of love,” to be “guilty,” etc. While such things may seem to be unimportant, they’re not. In fact, such beliefs go in opposition with universal laws. And that’s why we can’t seem to be at ease. That’s why we’re restless. Something’s off.

This restlessness at an unconscious level is what pushes us on the surface to seek distractions, pleasures, fights, and so on. This restlessness is also why we yearn to be loved, appreciated, and seen for the person we are.

While there is nothing “wrong” with being loved, or knowing we deserve to be loved; if we depend on others for love — our life quickly turns into a mess.

No one can give us love. Love is everywhere. And we feel this love when we release the false assumptions we have about ourselves, our nature, and the nature of the universe we live in. This takes time to happen, a lot of healing and personal growth — but in the long run, we do overcome a lot of “sacred cows” and live as we were meant to. Sovereign beings.

As a final note...

If you have been meditating, using affirmations and thinking positively for a while now without necessarily integrating spiritual truths at a soul level even though you understand them intellectually, I wrote a book to help you demystify the main blocks to spiritual growth, learn how to heal more effectively, and progress on your path. You can give it a look here.

Thank you for reading!