'My mother-in-law planned a surprise birthday for my husband without telling me'

One woman was left confused after her mother-in-law threw together a surprise birthday for her husband .

While she would have liked to be aware of the plans, it was outside of her control. She took to Reddit to detail her experience .

She wrote: “Y’all I’m STRESSED. Last year for [husband’s] birthday I was told only days before that MonsterInLaw had planned a surprise party for [husband] at his place of work and was merely invited and then asked to bring balloons.

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“As some of you know I’ve been greyrocking MonsterInLaw. Well today, only three days before [husband’s] birthday, MonsterInLaw informs me they’ve made plans to do another surprise party for [husband].

“I of course told [husband], but I have no clue what to do. Within exception to the two times she texted me last month (when [husband] got COVID and when she had an idea of how to decorate my son's room) she hasn’t talked to, or asked about me or DS in SIX MONTHS. Not even after I recently had to go to the hospital for an infection did I get a “hi I heard....” etc. text.

“What do I do... please help! Having major anxiety over this.”

Social media users left their opinions on the matter.

One person said: “At this point it's too late for this. But in the future have him take time off if you want to do something for his birthday or any other special event. For mother's day or fathers day make plans to be out of town. Three day weekends you are going camping and are unreachable. If you want the special occasions make plans in advance even if they are just hiding at home.”

Another person chimed in: “Next time mother in law does this, text her back, sorry, already had a surprise planned for him and me.”

Someone else added: “There's nothing you should feel bad about.”

While another person said: “I read your past posts. You married a boy. Until he becomes a man, you are at their mercy. Sucks. Also, this story is why I didnt go into the family business. When I go to a family function or dont go, I dont have to be worried about how work will be the following Monday.”

An additional individual wrote: “You guys are adults. And your married. Tell her no thank you you have your own plans and don’t go. Block her phone number for the day. Or put your phones on silent. Tell her you have your own plans already. Next time she needs to give you proper notice so you can plan together....and in the back of your mind you have time to plan to exclude her. Lol. If that’s what you want.”