My boyfriend said he expects me to be a tradwife out of nowhere – I feel scammed but people say my response was ‘mint’

A COUPLE is on thin ice after one woman’s boyfriend asked her to be a tradwife.

She said the experience with her beau made her feel “scammed,” but it didn’t keep her from firing back.

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Redditor Academic-comfort5499 posted about the issue on the social media platform.

“My boyfriend told me he wants me to be a ‘traditional wife’ out of nowhere,” she said.

A traditional wife, referred to colloquially as a “tradwife,” is a woman who embraces older values, including being a stay-at-home mother and being submissive to her husband.

She said they came from a similar socio-economic background and age group, and they both had initially agreed to not start a family until their 30s.

WHAT WENT WRONG?

The 26-year-old said that her boyfriend’s mindset changed one day, seemingly out of the blue.

“I’m not sure if his mindset is due to a quarter-life crisis, but he’s been having severe baby fever,” she said.

“Always sending me baby videos and traditional wife videos while I’m at work. I thought it was cute at first because it just looked to me like he was envisioning our future together and I didn’t think too much about it.”

Things changed when the woman confronted her boyfriend over dinner.

“He told me he really doesn’t want us to both be working parents and would love for me to be a traditional wife and give up my career for raising children ,” she said.

“And here’s the kicker — he said, ‘Within the next couple years.'”

She added that the boyfriend wanted to marry and have children with her before 30, saying it would be too old.

She initially laughed at his remark before realizing he was being genuine.

“He wasn’t joking though. He was serious. And he doubled down on it and said that’s what he’s looking for now and he hopes I’m ok with the ‘change of plans,'” she said.

After the boyfriend dropped the bomb on her, dinner quickly became awkward.

“I didn’t say anything for the rest of the dinner,” she said.

“And when he dropped me off at my apartment I gave him a peck on the cheek and said, ‘I love you but we’re done, good luck finding your traditional wife.’

“I could hear him speaking when I shut the door. He just rolled down the window and said, ‘What the f**k does that mean?’

“I kept walking and when I got inside I blocked him on everything.”

PUBLIC OPINION

Redditors gave their two cents on the break-up in the comments section of the post.

“I think this response was mint. Polite but firm, ‘It’s not even up for debate,'” one said.

“If he doesn’t think you deserve to even have input on this change now, imagine how controlling he’ll be after marriage. I don’t think you overreacted,” another added.

“You are my idol. I wish I had the confidence to leave toxic relationships like you did,” a third commented.