'I want to name my baby after my dead ex-girlfriend - but my wife is fuming'

A man has sparked an uproar after suggesting he name his unborn daughter after his deceased ex-girlfriend to keep her memory alive. The 34-year-old father-to-be and his 31-year-old wife are expecting their bundle of joy in just 12 weeks, and the hunt for the perfect baby name is on.

However, when he proposed naming their child after his former flame who passed away shortly after they parted ways, his wife was less than thrilled. He took to Reddit to seek advice, sharing: "We don't know the sex of the baby but we've started thinking about baby names.

"A couple of nights ago we were suggesting names. I had a girlfriend for around six years before meeting my now wife. Unfortunately, she passed away and I was absolutely devastated. It's still painful to think about and I always imagined naming a child in her memory. I also just love the name itself (Nancy). When I made the suggestion to my wife she seemed unimpressed."

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His wife gently expressed her discomfort with the name Nancy due to its association with his past relationship, but he couldn't understand her unease. He continued his story on Reddit, stating: "The way I see it is that Nancy was very important to me for a really long time. She was my best friend and losing her was just a terrible thing.

"I feel as though it would be a great way to remember and honor a dear friend who I miss every day. My wife doesn't share my views and honestly, it's caused a lot of issues. I dropped it and said it was important we both agreed on the name but she's still insisting it's strange and she doesn't understand why I suggested it."

Seeking insight into whether he's out of line or if his wife is making a mountain out a molehill, he added, "I don't know if she feels insecure or maybe the pregnancy is stressing her but she just won't drop it. I honestly don't see the issue whatsoever."

One user chimed in with this perspective: "This is your wife's baby too and you want her to think about someone you intimately loved before you married her? Ouch. You can't honestly think that wouldn't be hurtful, do you? "

Another concurred with: "Not how you intended it, but it comes across of 'Hey wife you're my second choice, so let's name our kid after what would have been my first choice'."

A third reader chimed in, advising: "C'mon man, use your brain. A: she is feeling big and ugly at this stage. B: she is already probably insecure about a girl you obviously have put on a pedestal in death (perfectly normal to do C: she doesn't want to be reminded of the love you held for someone else. Fix it by apologising and never bringing it up again."