Only 10% of the hundreds of couples I’ve treated in Couples Counseling were willing and able to develop emotional intimacy. Most people find it to be too messy. One operational definition of emotional intimacy might be the unity created by two committed and unique individuals. The messy challenge is to honor your individuality while attending to the couple's unity. Let’s look at four levels of messiness and how to clean them up.

Challenges of Emotional Intimacy

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Marriage is a big step in a relationship. It's something that people think about from the time they can grasp the concept of relationships. When you factor that in with the high divorce rate, it makes sense that people want to make sure they're getting it right before they take the leap.Typically people ask their close inner circle relationship advice. Leaning on people like their parents, siblings or friends who have been married to fill in the gaps of knowledge. But with the world being smaller than ever due to social media, it takes little effort to gather more collective knowledge from thousands of people from your target audience. Surprisingly, people are pretty forthcoming to strangers on the internet looking for support and help. One man who goes by the name King Boiza decided to ask his internet advisors, "married men what is your greatest regret about marriage? Advise the single boys. It could be about anything." They married men didn't hesitate to answer the call in the most genuinely wholesome way.

Single man asks married men their biggest marriage regret and they don't disappoint

New love is abundant with resources. The partners in a new relationship make it their primary priority. In this blissful state, they cannot imagine anything they cannot overcome and believe that nothing will change the way they feel about each other. Their souls feel joined and their individual resources blend perfectly.

The 9 Challenges Couples Are Most Likely to Face

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Relationship experts say these are the most common arguments couples have while traveling together.

4 Fights Couples Always Have On Vacation (And How To Avoid Them)

Cheating is relatively common in romantic relationships. Choosing whether to split up or stay together can be challenging. A willingness to work together, forgive, and apologize for one's role are key components of recovery. Infidelity is very common in romantic relationships. A recent study examining rates of reported extramarital sex...

Staying Together After Cheating

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When my friends and I finally met up recently, the topic of our conversation quickly turned to the scarcity of good men available for dating. When I asked Alicia what she meant by “good men,” she listed qualities like intelligence, a sense of humor, a fit physique, good grooming, and independence. While these traits are certainly desirable, a healthy relationship is built on more profound attributes like honesty, trust, and communication.

The 5 Things a Good Man Will Never Do in a Relationship

Infidelity is not just a physical act but a breach of emotional commitment. Spending money foolishly can lead to resentment, stress, and, ultimately, marital breakdown. Jealousy can suffocate intimacy and erode the emotional connection between partners. A classic 1997 study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family analyzed over...

The 6 Leading Causes of Divorce

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Infidelity is a painful and complex issue that many couples face. Understanding why it happens is crucial for addressing and potentially preventing it. Cheating can shatter trust, break hearts and disrupt families, leading to long-term emotional and psychological consequences. While every situation is unique, certain patterns and reasons frequently emerge when examining why married people cheat. In this article, we will delve into the five most common reasons spouses cheat, shedding light on the underlying factors that drive infidelity.

5 common reasons married people cheat

Swinger parties can be an exciting and novel way for couples to explore their sexuality together. However, attending such events requires careful consideration and mutual respect to ensure that it doesn’t negatively impact your relationship. Here’s how you can attend a swinger party without ruining your marriage. Communication...

How to attend a swinger party without ruining your marriage

We carefully vet all products and services featured on mindbodygreen using our commerce guidelines. Our selections are never influenced by the commissions earned from our links. Love is about much more than saying "I love you," and whether you and your love interest haven't uttered the words yet—or you have...

12 Telltale Signs A Man Loves You, From Relationship Experts

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We recently asked married men of the BuzzFeed Community to tell us the hardest parts of marriage that no one talks about. Here’s what they had to say:. 1. “Twenty-five years married here. The person you marry is going to change in each season of life, and you have to abandon your own selfishness and put in an effort to fall in love with them anew each time...and to help them find new ways to fall in love with you as you change, too. It’s super hard because you’re going to miss the person they used to be (before kids, before menopause, etc.), but if you put in the work and keep an open mind, you’ll probably like the new them a lot, too.”

Married Men Are Revealing The 'Hardest Parts' Of Marriage That No One Talks About

A relationship expert shares what he’s learned from years of observing couples. Anyone who gets married goes into it expecting a long-lasting union, but as we all know, many of them will turn out to be wrong. In fact, about 43% of first marriages in the U.S. end in divorce — and if you ask renowned psychotherapist John Gottman, the writing is probably on the wall from early on.

6 Signs That Your Marriage Is Headed For Divorce

Kratom, a drug sold at U.S. gas stations and on the internet, has some serious risks and has caused deaths. Kratom alkaloids differ from heroin as they have opioid plus serotonergic, adrenergic, and other effects. Scientists are trying to separate the constituents of Mitragyna speciosa Korth leaves to find new...

What We Know About Kratom

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We've all seen a friend or family member suffer a broken heart – or sometimes worse – in a relationship. But wouldn't it be nice if we were able to recognize red flags sooner and save ourselves and our loved ones from the pain?

Opinion: Men Warn Women To Watch Out for These 10 Red Flags

Ghosting is thought of in terms of romantic relationships, but new research shows it happens at work, too. New research shows that Dark Triad traits, especially psychopathy, may feed into a new type of ghosting. By reading the signals of a potential new relationship partner, you can help keep ghosting’s...

The Strange Ghosting Behavior of Dark Triad People

A double bind describes a situation in which a person receives conflicting messages. There may be times when your body language doesn’t quite seem to align with what you're saying. It's important to be aware of your body language and remember that you're always communicating. The content of the...

Breaking Down Our Messages

Ever found yourself wondering where your relationship is headed? You’re not alone. Studies on casual adult relationships say that misguided sexual relationships and experiences are often thought to have negative effects on the mental health of a person. Sometimes, figuring out whether you’re in a casual fling or gearing...

Casual vs Serious Relationship: 10 Differences You Should Know

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Fans of Frisco's Chicken were left reeling as the beloved Peruvian-style eatery announced the closure of all its locations in Lancaster County, Pennsylvania. The chain, known for its delicious food and strong community values, posted a heartfelt note on its doors, informing customers of the devastating news.

Favorite Chicken Chain Suddenly Closes All Stores, Heartfelt Message Found on Doors

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Yesterday was the third time this year that an ad stating Chelsea Clinton lives in a beautiful Virginia home popped up on my laptop. My computer did not warn me this was a dangerous site, so this time, I clicked on the link.

Chelsea Clinton is rumored to be living in Virginia but probably still in NYC

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90 Day Fiance star, Michael Ilesanmi, has some new relationships since his split from Angela Deem. Fans have mixed emotions about Michael’s intentions when coming to the United States. However, he has been making the best out of his situation and seems to have formed some new connections with people since moving. Keep reading to find out more about this.

’90 Day Fiance’ Michael Ilesanmi Has New Relationships After Split

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Why Couples Have the Same Old Fight

Arguments, fights, disagreements, and disappointments are common in relationships. This is not the problem. The problem comes when we don’t know how to handle these challenges....

Why Couples Have the Same Old Fight

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