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Only 10% of the hundreds of couples I’ve treated in Couples Counseling were willing and able to develop emotional intimacy. Most people find it to be too messy. One operational definition of emotional intimacy might be the unity created by two committed and unique individuals. The messy challenge is to honor your individuality while attending to the couple's unity. Let’s look at four levels of messiness and how to clean them up.

Challenges of Emotional Intimacy

Self-Centered Behavior: Anxiety can make us lose empathy and patience, isolating us from others. Acting Against Values: Anxiety can drive us to ignore core values. Anxiety-induced impulsivity can result in regrettable decisions, neglecting long-term outcomes. For more than twenty years, I have been ‘preaching’ about the importance not to demonize...

Are You Cuddling Your Anxiety? The Dangers of Merely Coping

Groupthink, confirmation bias, and conformity subtly distort our perceptions, leading to flawed judgments. Debate education teaches students to critically evaluate information and defend their positions with evidence. Normalizing family conversations and disagreements about issues without personal attacks is essential. Groupthink, confirmation bias, and conformity subtly distort our perceptions, leading to...

Navigating Cognitive Minefields

Chronic defensiveness is actually offensive and hurtful. Perfectionists believe that minor mistakes will lead to significant losses. Admitting mistakes will, counterintuitively, improve relationships. Imagine believing that a small flaw will create the most catastrophic outcome. Also, imagine believing that only the apparently perfect are worthy of love. While most of...

Addressing Chronic Defensiveness

I was married at the time. My father-in-law was driving me and my then wife, his daughter, to the airport. She had been telling a story in the car about how difficult high school had been. After hearing the story, my father-in-law started to cry. He had no idea she had been bullied. He thought she had had a great high school experience. I remember seeing the tears stream down his face, the hurt and empathy in his eyes.

Don't Hide: The Importance of Practicing Vulnerability

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K.D. Lewis

Respect forms the cornerstone of any healthy relationship, and its absence can lead to a multitude of problems. But what causes a man to lose respect for a woman he once admired? Understanding these dynamics can help both partners cultivate a deeper, more respectful bond.

What Makes a Man Lose Respect for a Woman?

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Divorce is often seen as a negative life event, but for many women, it marks the beginning of a new, more fulfilling chapter. Surprisingly, a significant number of women report marrying better after divorce, finding partners who better align with their values, desires and needs. In this article, we’ll explore the reasons behind this phenomenon, delving into personal growth, clearer priorities and societal changes that contribute to women’s improved marital outcomes post-divorce.

Why women often marry better after divorce

Franklin County Free Press

Fear is something that is inevitable when we are experiencing grief, loss, heartache, another door closing, or another door opening. We are all naturally going to experience worry and anxiety, when confusing or frustrating circumstances arise. Fear, anxiety, and worry may feel like climbing a tall mountain with rocky terrain....

Overcoming Fear, Anxiety, and Worry

Asian parents are stereotypically seen as strict, both academically and in day-to-day life. This parenting style seems to be proved by their successful children or in some cases, their friend’s successful children. This special kind of parenting using extreme strictness in academics is known as tiger parenting. Tiger parenting...

Tiger Parenting: Is It All Worth It?

A double bind describes a situation in which a person receives conflicting messages. There may be times when your body language doesn’t quite seem to align with what you're saying. It's important to be aware of your body language and remember that you're always communicating. The content of the...

Breaking Down Our Messages

Single life is often characterized as a lesser life as if it is something we poor single people have to “come to terms with,” as if it were a deadly disease. As if no one would choose to be single and to stay single. All that is so...

The Psychological Richness of Single Life

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There are certain zodiac signs that most people are careful with because of their fiery and low tolerance levels. You can hardly mess with individuals with such signs without getting a backlash. Whether they are in work environments or family settings, they do not hesitate to set boundaries and protect them.

5 Zodiac Signs You Don't Mess With

In a world where norms and values are constantly evolving, it’s time to challenge the status quo and embrace practices that foster inclusivity, understanding, and personal freedom. Here’s a list of 25 things that should be more socially acceptable, aiming to break down barriers and celebrate diversity. 1....

25 American Taboos We Should Challenge and Change

Kratom, a drug sold at U.S. gas stations and on the internet, has some serious risks and has caused deaths. Kratom alkaloids differ from heroin as they have opioid plus serotonergic, adrenergic, and other effects. Scientists are trying to separate the constituents of Mitragyna speciosa Korth leaves to find new...

What We Know About Kratom

Bryce Gruber

The color yellow is gorgeous, eye-catching, and downright happy for most people. So much so that it's the main hue in the world-famous happy face—but science says it's not the best color to wear on a date.

You Shouldn't Wear Yellow on First Dates, Here's Why

As personal coach and master fitness trainer David Emerson Frost aptly notes, nearly every one of the country’s 75 million Baby Boomers — those born between 1946 and 1964 — have “a chink in our armor, a joint that isn’t quite what it was, a little less gumption to keep on keepin’ on, or some other reality of modern maturity.”

Motivational Guide Helps Seniors Live Happier, Healthier, Longer Life

A large number of US workers believe their bosses are bad, some bordering on toxic. Bosses who are punitive, overly-emotional, and inconsistent can easily become toxic. A potentially toxic boss blames employees and treats them unfairly. A 2023 survey found that nearly one-fourth of employees are working for their “worst...

5 Warning Signs That Your Boss Is Becoming Toxic

I didn't realize every protest or cry my daughter made was perhaps— just maybe—not my fault until after my second child was born. My first woke every other hour for five months until I finally bit the proverbial bullet and tried sleep training. She clung, wanting to ride on a hip well into her second year. She didn’t walk until long past the growth curve said she should. She slithered around like a snake, then walked on her knees for months before pulling upright. (Spoiler: she is a grown, healthy woman.)

What Does It Mean to Be a Good Enough Parent?

Narcissistic people get more empathetic, generous and agreeable with age, according to new research into the personality trait. But although their unreasonably high sense of self-importance may mellow, they do not fully grow out of it, the study involving more than 37,000 people suggests. Those who were more narcissistic than...

Narcissists mellow with age, study suggests

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Cheryl E Preston

History Facts lists eight names US parents no longer give their newborns, which you may no longer hear in Virginia. The girls' names are Doris, Gertrude, Mildred, and Judith. I know or have known women with all four names, but they are either baby boomers or boomer parents' ages and someone's grandma or great aunt. Consider the ages of females in Virginia you know with these names.

Eight names parents in Virginia may no longer be giving to their newborns

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5 Underrecognized Upsides of Self-Doubt

When a person accomplishes things above their supposed grade level, they have reason to be proud. When people remain open and receptive to new data, they...

5 Underrecognized Upsides of Self-Doubt

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