Choosing to have a child-free wedding is perfectly fine if you prefer not to have young guests at your event. However, this decision may lead some parents to opt out of attending in order to stay with their children. One soon-to-be groom is irate after his brother's wife announced she won't be attending his wedding due to the no-kids rule he implemented - as she needs to care for her young son.
The groom deemed it "unacceptable" for his sister-in-law to miss his big day, even though his choice to exclude his nephew and other children from the ceremony is the reason she prefers to stay home. In a Reddit post , the groom's brother shared that his wife's parents were also invited to the wedding because they are close with the family. This means both sets of grandparents will be at the ceremony, leaving them unable to babysit their grandson.
He further explained that while they do have a nanny, she has her own family to attend to when she's not caring for their son. They don't want to impose on her days off unless it's an emergency. Having his wife's sister babysit their son isn't an option either, as she's a self-employed businesswoman who can't afford to take time off work without affecting her income, reports the Mirror .
Therefore, the only solution left is for his wife to stay home with their son while he goes to his brother's wedding solo.
In a Reddit post , the man detailed: "My brother is getting married in May 2023. He and his fiancee have requested no children at their wedding or reception. Now here's where my problem comes into play. Our son is 20 months old and on the quiet side."
"My brother invited my wife's parents as he really likes them. Now, all four grandparents have been eliminated from childcare. We pay our nanny very well and would like to avoid overtime with her since she has her own family to care for, and it would cost us several hundred dollars for the day."
"My brother suggested my sister-in-law (wife's sister) take the day off work to watch our son. The thing is, she is self-employed and owns her own business where it's just her doing the work, so every day she doesn't work, she has to makeup for it. This is about it [when it comes to] who we trust to watch our son."
The man revealed that his brother has also told the couple to "figure it out" soon, as he believes not having his brother's wife in attendance will "embarrass" him in front of his wedding guests.
He added: "My brother does not seem to understand the pickle he's put my wife in, and told us 'You have time to figure it out', and that we better do so 'before you or your wife embarrass me in front of over a hundred people'. My wife understands and respects the no children rule, but she'd have to hang back and miss the wedding because of it. This is unacceptable to my brother."
In a revealing update, the husband shared that his wife's parents are now caught in the wedding drama, saying they'll only show up if she does, creating a no-win scenario for her.
"For those asking about my in-laws, they've said they'll only go if my wife goes," he revealed. "If she doesn't, then they won't. If they back out to take our son, my brother will think my wife convinced them to bail and take my kid and make more drama out of it. It's a lose-lose for my wife."
Social media users rallied behind the wife, arguing that while the couple getting married has every right to a child-free event, they must also deal with the consequences for their guests.
One commenter expressed: "They're the ones who want no children at the wedding. They can't hold it against potential guests who might not be able to arrange childcare for the evening. Your brother quite frankly is being a groomzilla and it's okay for you to stand up to him and say you won't attend the wedding if this behaviour continues."
Another advised: "Do not bring a child to a child-free wedding. Either stay home or get a sitter. However, your brother needs to understand that an invitation to a wedding is not a summons. You and your wife make the best choice for you."
A third chimed in: "If he really wants you to attend, he shouldn't make it so difficult for you to attend. People getting married think the world revolves around them, and it doesn't."
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