'I proposed to my boyfriend - people say I've stolen his thunder and emasculated him'

A woman has been slammed for 'ruining her boyfriend's thunder' after proposing to him rather than waiting for him to get down on one knee. She explained how she's a "planner" and he "love surprises" so decided to take it upon herself to arrange a low-key proposal that was special to them both.

Before asking for his hand in marriage , she told him what she was going to do without revealing how or when to expect the proposal. The woman said: "I hate waiting, we both agreed to get married. I straight up told him I was going to give him a proper proposal, so I did it. The way I did it was very personal to us, in our house, after work. He cried a little. He loved it."

"We then watched our new favorite show, went to bed, and went to work the next day. It wasn't very climactic, but it was special to us."

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While those close to them expected her to be the one to propose to him, others deemed it to be "wrong", claiming he should have been the one to do the asking.

"A few people, however, think maybe I shouldn't have proposed. They are convinced that he feels emasculated and is hiding it," she added.

"Some are convinced that I wanted some proposal but was 'tired of waiting' so that's why I took the initiative."

"Nope. I proposed to him because we wanted to get married. There didn't even need to be a proposal, considering that we already agreed to be married!"

She went on to explain how it was "right" for them as a couple to do it this way around - saying her now fiance couldn't be happier with how it went.

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The woman said: "I know that some men want to be the ones that propose, and that is totally fine. I don't care."

"Even if my guy was that type, I wouldn't mind. But, he isn't, so I went for it. It was right for us which is the only kind of 'right' that matters."

"Why would any one want to do something that is only right for someone else?"

Commenting on her Reddit post, one user said: "I don't know why people make such a big deal about gender roles when it doesn't even involve them."

Another user added: "I proposed to my husband. His brother made the biggest deal out of it out of anyone we knew. No one else really batted an eye."

"Of course his brother also threw a hissy fit at his bachelor party because I didn't take their family name. Again, he was the only one who seemed to give a s***."

"My brother in law is kind of a d***. No one is forcing him to have a relationship with dynamics like ours. I don't know why he is so threatened by it."

A third user said: "I've actually proposed to my boyfriend and he said no. He said that not only it emasculated him, but it also took away the only 'wedding thing' he had control over."

"The whole male proposal thing is probably deeply ingrained culturally or something."

One more user added: "Everything about getting married should be about the people involved, from the proposal to the actual wedding itself."

"People often love to critique others' weddings and relationships. I wouldn't personally propose to my boyfriend but I'm happy that you wanted to and it seems to have worked out well for both of you."