Ask This Simple Question To Stop Obsessing Over Him

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When you find yourself caught in a loop of obsessive thoughts about someone, it can feel like your mind is stuck on repeat, constantly replaying the same scenarios, analyzing every interaction, and fixating on what might happen next. This mental cycle can be exhausting and emotionally draining, leaving you unable to focus on anything else.

But there’s a simple question you can ask yourself to break free from this pattern: "Is this bringing me peace?"

Obsessing over someone often stems from uncertainty, fear of the unknown, or unmet emotional needs. By asking yourself whether these thoughts are bringing you peace, you’re inviting a moment of clarity. This question helps you shift your focus from the endless loop of speculation and worry to the reality of how these thoughts are affecting your well-being.

If the answer is no, it’s a signal that it’s time to refocus your energy.

Here are a few bullet points to help you stop obsessing over him:

• What do I really want in a relationship?
  Focus on your needs and desires, rather than fixating on someone else.
• Does this obsession serve my well-being?
  Reflect on how your thoughts and feelings are impacting your mental and emotional health.
• Am I neglecting other important aspects of my life?
  Consider whether your focus on him is causing you to overlook other areas of your life, such as your hobbies, friendships, or personal growth.
• Is this obsession based on reality or fantasy?
  Evaluate whether your thoughts are rooted in actual experiences or if you’re idealizing a version of him that doesn’t truly exist.
• What can I do to redirect my energy?
  Think about healthy activities or goals you can pursue that will shift your focus away from him and back onto yourself.
• Am I respecting my own boundaries and self-worth?
  Ensure that you’re not compromising your values or self-respect in the process of obsessing over someone.

Redirect your thoughts towards activities that genuinely bring you peace and fulfillment—whether it’s spending time with friends, pursuing a hobby, or practicing mindfulness. Remember, your mental and emotional health should always come first. Reclaim your peace by letting go of what doesn’t serve you, and give yourself the space to grow beyond this fixation.

About Author

Jocelyn Paige Kelly is not your typical writer. She’s a Clarion West grad, short story writer, and poet. If you’re lucky you might catch her on Twitter tweeting as @jossome or you can read one of her many published short stories here. She has an interesting history of writing blogs for various companies from a psychic network to a supplements company. Nothing, except her kidneys, phase her.