The Strawberry Letter: Why Would She Keep Telling the Same Lie

Dear Steve and Shirley,

I'm 42, and my boyfriend is 47. When we met, he was going through a divorce and living with his brother. He would go missing on weekends, and his wife started calling me with lies, saying that when he wasn't with me, he was back at home with his family. I have no idea where their house is, so I couldn't ride by to see if my boyfriend was there. The last time he disappeared, he said that he and his brother were gambling all night, and his phone died. His brother confirmed it, and I trust that he is being honest.

I asked how his wife got my number, and he said he gave it to her in case of an emergency with the kids. He had to know that wasn't a good idea because she calls me a homewrecker. A year into our relationship, he had to move back home because his brother's girlfriend was moving in. I asked why he couldn't get his own place, and he said he has bad credit, so he's moving back to the house that he still pays for. His wife called me again to say that her husband was back at home, and I should give up hope that he'll ever leave again.

I always record our conversations so I can play them back to my boyfriend. He heard the last conversation, and he said that she keeps telling me the same lie because she wants their marriage to work out. I know he's trying to get out of the marriage because I've heard him talking to his lawyer. I would never believe his crazy wife, and I'm tired of her feeding me all of her lies. I got my number changed so I can live in peace with my boyfriend. I've talked to him and FaceTimed him, so I know he's not in bed with her. What other proof do I need that she is a liar?