Why Setting Boundaries Helps You Achieve Emotional Security

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Boundaries Serve as a Cornerstone for Respect in Any Relationship.

Embracing the unknown can be daunting, especially in relationships where uncertainty is a constant. However, setting clear, soft, and hard boundaries is a powerful tool that safeguards our emotional and physical well-being. These boundaries help us understand each other's needs and expectations and

In a healthy, happy relationship, trust is the foundation of emotional security. It's about having each other's best interests at heart, making a solid commitment, and validating their needs and desires.

Balancing emotional stability may feel like a circus act at times. We cannot read each other's minds and it is hard to maintain the balance that both people need and deserve. But, setting boundaries help us understand what our partner needs in order to thrive. And if you love someone, you respect that.

Creating emotional security requires boundaries. It is essential to talk about your boundaries, and it is best received when using "I statements." When someone doesn't respect your boundaries, it is most likely a sign that they do not respect you.

How to Create Emotional Security

• Have self-awareness. Know your strengths, weaknesses, and vulnerabilities.
• Raise your emotional Intelligence. This will create strong communication skills, social awareness, and empathy.
• Trust your intuition. If the energy is off or someone changes behavior in a relationship, it is a red flag.
• Set and enforce firm boundaries.
• Live a soul-based rather than fear-based life, empowering you to make better decisions.

Emotional Security Is Fundamental in Relationships

Knowing that emotional security will create security is one thing, but how do you establish it? And why is it so important?

What Emotional Security Provides:

1. Feeling understood, seen, and heard
2. Feeling worthy of love & acceptance
3. Feeling respected
4. Feeling appreciated
5. Knowing that your person has your back no matter what

Now, I will explain why it is critical in relationships. Returning to childhood...did you have a secure attachment with your parents or caregivers? If so, you are likely more confident and empathetic towards others. If not, you are likely guarded and more insecure. Either way, you can build Emotional Intelligence at any age to build confidence, communicate better, and empathize, significantly affecting your relationship.

The more mistreated and undervalued we are, the harder it is to be vulnerable and forge healthy emotional connections.

"But when people feel emotionally safe, their emotional system calms down, and they become saner." ~Helene Brenner, Ph.D., and Larry Letich, LCSW-C.

Final Thoughts

Emotional security can create a safe place for healing from past experiences and trauma. The main point of a relationship is to bring us to a higher level of consciousness and to lead us to the best version of ourselves. We teach each other and provide a safe growth and healing space.

"If someone throws a fit because you set boundaries, It's just more evidence the boundary is needed." ~Author Unknown

"Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious, and you must decide how to use them. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won't accept." ~Anna Taylor

"Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others." ~Brene Brown

Thank you for taking the time to read this. Setting boundaries in all relationships is a good practice, but a romantic, healthy relationship needs them to thrive. Pay attention to who respects your boundaries and who does not, and you will have all the answers you need. You are amazing, and I wish you all the best.

Peace & Light,

Libby