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A Woman Left Her Sister’s Wedding Early and Sparked a Viral Debate About Etiquette: What She Said
13 days ago
If you are getting dolled up for a wedding, especially your own sister’s, chances are you are planning to stay until the end of the night. But when the bride rudely commented on her sister’s choice of career, the sibling in question decided to call it a night before the cake was cut.
Now, her mother is furious, and her sister, the bride, won’t speak to her because she “ruined” the night by leaving early. But was her reasoning for ditching the reception good enough? Keep scrolling to learn about the viral debate.
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What happened between the sisters on the wedding day?
According to a user on Reddit, who goes by the handle @Honest_Cantaloupe159 , she attended her sister Anna’s wedding, with whom she has a complicated relationship. She explained in the since-viral post that Anna has always been a career-oriented, successful woman, while she is an artist with a small business.
When @Honest_Cantaloupe159 went to congratulate her sister on her big day, Anna snarkily replied, “Thanks! I’m surprised you actually made it. I figured you’d be too busy with your little hobby business.”
Caught off guard, she explained that her business wasn’t just a hobby but her life’s work, to which her sister replied, “Well, it’s not a real job, but I’m glad you’re having fun with it.”
Of course, she was not expecting the response from the bride whom she just congratulated on her marriage. As the comment began to eat at her, she decided to leave the wedding after dinner without saying goodbye. Her family was upset after the artist made her decision, so she took to the internet to ask users to weigh in on the drama.
The bride-to-be took to Reddit to share her concerns, which have now gone viral
Was it wrong to leave the wedding early?
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Many Reddit users have chimed in since the artist made her initial post, agreeing with her decision to cut out of the celebration early. One reddit user commented, “ As we said in the 90s, ‘what’s her damage?’” Another wrote, “ It was rude to begin with , but the fact that that's how she responded to you congratulating her tells me that she was intentionally trying to be hurtful and dismissive. You did not overreact by leaving. Her response to you was incredibly inappropriate.”
While many commenters agreed with the decision to leave the wedding early, the call might not have been the most respectful thing to do, according to proper wedding etiquette.
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Is it against proper wedding etiquette to leave a wedding early?
Technically, it is proper wedding etiquette to stay at a reception at least until the couple cuts their cake. They put a lot of work into their wedding, and it could be seen as disrespectful to leave before then, especially because it's a big day for the couple.
As for leaving without saying goodbye, that is a bit trickier as it can be hard to have a moment with the couple. It is traditionally not rude to leave a wedding without saying goodbye if you’ve spoken to the bride or groom during the night.
However, in this case, proper wedding etiquette may not be the answer. Yes, it can be disrespectful to leave a wedding early, but what if the bride was rude to you and it was your sister? It seems the answer is most likely a judgment call. Leaving this wedding in particular would depend on what happened between the sisters, what the energy between them was like after the rude comment and what the history is there. Etiquette says it isn’t proper, but the situation can speak for itself.
What do you think of the wedding decision and viral debate?
The bride clearly disrespected her sister and I would have left too. Why stay where you are not respected…for cake cutting or anything else for that matter. The bride and family should be ashamed of themselves
Toniann Whitaker
12d ago
I would've stated back to this immature bratty sister bridezilla, "Jealous much?! Bye-bye Felicia." Then I would have immediately walked out the door while blowing her a kiss. If I brought a gift, I would take it back. Then I'd create something - doing my little hobby thing and, give that instead.
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