12 principles of psychologist Carl Jung about life and relationships

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The heaviest burden that lies on the shoulders of children...

The famous Swiss psychiatrist Carl Gustav Jung is the founder of analytical psychology, who left a deep mark on the field of psychology with his theories of analytical psychology and deep knowledge of human nature.

Jung was a profound and prolific thinker whose works covered a wide range of topics, from religion to mythology, alchemy and depth psychology.

Carl Jung believed that the psyche is a self-regulating system that, like the body, strives to maintain a certain balance between opposite extremes as it grows and develops, a process Jung calls individuation.

The great psychiatrist studied medicine in Basel. At the age of 25, he became an assistant to the world-famous psychiatrist Eugen Bleuler, at 27, Jung received his doctorate, and at 30, he became an associate professor at the University of Zurich.

During his career, Jung developed several concepts that have had a profound influence on psychology and other disciplines.

Today we offer you statements from a famous psychologist that will help you better understand yourself.

1. Do not hold back the one who is leaving you. Otherwise, the one who is coming to you will not come.

Life is like a huge movie, where each of us plays a role. Sometimes characters appear in the script and become an integral part of our story. However, just like in a movie, we cannot always keep the characters for long. This is where it is important to realize who should not be kept when they decide to leave.

Like a prisoner clutching a cage, we often want to keep those in our lives who have already decided to leave. But is it worth the effort to hold on to them? Often, it is in the process of letting go that we make room for new encounters, new stories that may be even more surprising and meaningful.

So perhaps by not holding on to the past, we free ourselves to face the future. And perhaps the one who chooses to leave gives up his place to the one who is ready to come. After all, every encounter and every story is just a chapter in the book of our lives, and we have to trust that the next page can be even more exciting.

2. Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. He who looks outward sees only dreams, he who looks inward wakes up.

True clarity and understanding of one's goals and purpose comes when one looks within oneself and is not influenced solely by external factors.

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3. If a person does not understand another person, then he tends to think of him as a fool.

When someone does not understand another person's thoughts, actions, or ideas, they may be inclined to judge that person as stupid or strange. However, such judgments can be misleading, because humans are complex beings filled with unique experiences, feelings, and motivations. Instead of labeling someone as a "fool," we should ask, "Why does this person act the way they do?"

Sometimes, it can be helpful to step outside your own experience and try to accept a new idea and a different point of view. Instead of resorting to accurate judgments, it is worth seeking a deeper understanding of other people.

4. The heaviest burden that lies on the shoulders of children is the unlived life of their parents.

Unfulfilled dreams, desires, or unrealized potential of parents can have a profound impact on their children. Very often, parents dreamed of becoming a musician, doctor, or singer as children, but it didn’t work out, so they send their children to vocal lessons, play guitar, or force their child to go to medical school.

Or they burden their children with so much responsibility and guilt for how much effort they put into raising their children that the children grow up with a huge sense of responsibility or obligation to fulfill their parents’ unrealized aspirations, even if it conflicts with their own desires.

5. Loneliness is not the absence of people around, but the inability to talk to people about what seems important to you, or the unacceptability of your views for others.

True loneliness occurs when you cannot share with others what is important to you, or when your views are not accepted by others.

6. Do not look for faults in the house where the door was opened to you...

When someone opens their home or their heart to you, there is no need to look for faults. Instead, Nietzsche's words encourage you to develop gratitude and appreciation for the welcome you have received.

7. Depression is like a lady in black. If she comes, don't drive her away, but invite her to the table as a guest and listen to what she has to say.

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8. Being gifted doesn't mean you've received something. It means you have something to give.

Having abilities or talents is an opportunity to contribute to the world and share benefits with others, to use your gifts for the benefit of others, and not to hide them “in the drawer”.

9. What you resist, remains.

There is a deep meaning behind this short phrase. When you resist or fight something, it will not go away.

As is often the case, the more we resist, the more the threads of our resistance wrap around us like a spider’s web. We may resist hurt, fear, prejudice, or even negative beliefs. Perhaps the key to resolving this situation is to choose acceptance instead of resistance. To accept that hurts and difficulties are an inevitable part of life and cannot be simply pushed away. When we accept our emotions and experiences, they no longer exert such a strong control over us. This does not mean weakness. It means letting go of fighting what we cannot change and focusing on what we can control – our reactions and choices.

10. Everything that irritates you in others can lead to understanding yourself.

Often, what irritates others is a mirror of our own personality traits or unmet needs. When we encounter something that makes us resentful or irritated, it may be a signal that we are confronting an aspect of ourselves that we do not want to see or acknowledge. Rather than blaming others for our emotions, it is worth considering why these traits or behaviors are causing the reaction.

For example, if we get irritated with someone for being selfish, it may be because we have our own selfish tendencies that we don't recognize, or, on the contrary, we don't know how to love ourselves and be healthy with ourselves. Or if we are bothered by excessive criticism from others, it may be because of our own insecurities or fear of being rejected by others.

Instead of denying or rejecting these emotions, we can use them as a means of self-discovery. Understanding what exactly triggers irritation can lead to an awareness of our own weaknesses, fears, or unresolved issues. This, in turn, opens the door to personal growth and change.

11. A healthy person does not mock others. The tormentor becomes the one who has suffered.

Inner stability, happiness and self-confidence create respect for others and the absence of the need to hurt others. On the other hand, someone who has suffered or faced difficult periods in life may express their pain by hurting others. This may be a kind of defense mechanism or a way to control the world around them. This is not an excuse for such behavior, but may be an understanding of the motivation behind it.

12. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses.

I wonder what you think about these statements? Which quote did you like the most? Share in the comments.