5 Regrets From Dying People

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What do dying people regret at the end of their lives? There are specialists and health workers who have worked in palliative care for many years. Their patients are people who are about to die. Sometimes they share incredible experiences and regrets that they have before death. People quickly become wiser when they face their death. They discard unnecessary thoughts and expectations.

As you might expect, each person experiences a variety of emotions, from denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial, and finally acceptance. Each patient finds peace before passing, and each of them eventually does.

When asked what they regret in their lives or what they would change, they talk about a variety of topics.

And so, having summarized the answers of many people, we can name 5 main regrets from dying people:

1. I wish I had the courage to live a life that is true to myself, not the life that others expect of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is about to end and look back clearly, it is easy to see how many wishes, goals and dreams were not realized. Most people did not achieve even half of their goals because they were afraid of what their loved ones and acquaintances would say.

It is very important to try to achieve at least some of your goals along the way. The moment you start getting sick, it is already too late. Health gives freedom that very few people realize until it is gone.

2. I would like not to work so much.

Almost every male patient had this regret. They missed their children's youth and time with their friends. All the men deeply regretted spending most of their lives at work, not seeing their children grow up, not going to their school parties, not spending enough weekends with them.

Women also regretted spending most of their time working instead of being with their children.

They talked about how you don't really need to earn that much money to be happier. You can live a simpler life, limit yourself in some ways, but still spend time with your loved ones.

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3. I wish I could be brave and express my feelings in time.

Many people suppressed their feelings, did not say what they liked, what they did not like. Some never had the courage to confess their love. As a result, they were content with a mediocre existence, never becoming who they were truly capable of becoming. They developed many diseases associated with bitterness and resentment.

We can't control how others react. But we can be honest about what we like and don't like. And talk to the people we like. Either way, you win.

4. I would like to stay in touch with my friends.

Many people were so absorbed in their lives that they lost their friends from their youth in their later years. Before death, many people regret that they did not spend enough time with their friends, meeting them. Everyone misses their friends before death.

People who lead busy lives often give up on meeting their friends. But when you face your own death, money disappears. It's not the money that really matters to them.

5. I would like to be happier.

Many have not fully realized that happiness is a choice. They are stuck in old patterns and habits. So-called “comfort” has overwhelmed their emotions and physical life. Fear of change has made them give up on their goals and desires, without making them happy. Deep down, we all think we have plenty of time, but in fact, we don’t.

When you're on your deathbed, what others think of you doesn't matter at all.

I wonder what you think about this? What is the most important regret? Share in the comments.