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What You Shouldn't Expect From People to Stop Being Disappointed in Those Around You
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All people look at the world through the prism of their own perception. This is normal. The question is how this affects life - in a positive or negative way. After all, it is not always possible to assess the situation sensibly, abstracting from your own desires and feelings. This can upset and spoil relationships with others. I have collected for you8 things you should not expect from people, so that you can stop being disappointed.
"Why do people around me upset me so often?"
Agreement
Every person has an opinion based on their experience. The point of view is developed throughout life and changes, but this does not mean that others should agree with your thoughts. Sometimes you may be misunderstood by society, and there is nothing wrong with that.
To begin to develop and express yourself, you must let go of the desire to please everyone.
Deep respect
No one is obliged to respect anyone. Of course, in society this is accepted as the basis of ethics, but you cannot force everyone to do this. And especially not with the help of intimidation and manipulation. This approach will not lead you anywhere, because then the respectful attitude will turn out to be false.
If you really want respect, then throw out of your head the obsessive thought about the opinions of others. Start valuing yourself first, devoting time to your desires and interests, and the rest will come in the process of self-development.
Love
When faced with unrequited love, many people lower their self-esteem. This is the wrong approach, because the fact that you did not get along with one person does not mean that it will be the same with another. Do not bury your individuality, concentrate on your features, realize the value of your personality.
Love yourself, and then the sympathy of others will become just a pleasant bonus.
Fulfillment of desires
You should work on recognizing the individuality of other people. They also have their own motives and priorities, which do not always coincide with yours. Do not expect others to act the way you want them to. And do not get angry when things do not go as planned.
Unconditional assistance
There are people who tend to portray themselves as victims when any problem arises, expecting pity and help. But the thing is that no one is obliged to "lend a hand" and ease your worries. After all, this is, first of all, an invasion of personal space.
If you really need help, then say so directly, without making a show.
Mutual understanding without words
Unfortunately, or fortunately, telepathy is not on the list of abilities of every person. Therefore, we have to express emotions, feelings and desires with words. No one will know about your intentions until you tell them yourself.
It is important to take the initiative and communicate with people to come to a common conclusion. This approach will save you from many worries based on omissions.
Changes
No matter what anyone says, people are not inclined to change their habits and way of thinking. Even if a person swears that he will change for you, you can hardly believe it. You will only waste your nerves and time waiting for a miracle. But you should not get upset, instead, it is better to pay attention to yourself.
Eternal sincerity
Although you are the "main character" in your life, do not forget that others live their years in the same way. Each person has problems, turning points, internal conflicts. You see only what you are shown - "the tip of the iceberg", that is, often insincere behavior. It is worth realizing this and stop being critical of others.
By harboring false hopes in relation to other people, you, first of all, harm yourself. Write in the comments whether you agree with my opinion?
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