“Self control requires hard examinations of bad conduct, unflattering beliefs and uncomfortable moments that often are adverse childhood experiences which became bad operating systems in need of repair. This work is far from perfect, but it is sincerely pushing into areas of renewal all men should lean into. When a man speaks aggressively towards a woman he is occupying the classic abuser role in the domestic violence cycle—he is displaying power-seeking behavior out in the open, while confessing fear.”