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Life can feel hard for all sorts of valid reasons. However, if everything feels like a struggle, it can be partly self-inflicted. In key ways, most of us think in patterns that limit us and restrict our successes and happiness. Let's tackle three common, but not commonly discussed, thinking errors...

3 Thinking Errors That Make Life Harder Than Necessary

The cover story of Psychology Today this month, “Diagnosed In Adulthood,” made me think back to the timing of my own diagnoses. They all came in adulthood, in my late twenties: anorexia, major depressive disorder (with the modifier of with psychotic features added later), and borderline personality disorder.

Borderline Personality Diagnosis: Two Things That Matter

We’ve all been there—waking up in a cold sweat, with your heart pounding after a nightmare so vivid, that it’s hard to remember what’s real. Whether it’s frantically running from a faceless pursuer, falling from a great height, or being trapped in a room with no escape, these unsettling dreams can linger long after we’ve woken up.

2 Common Nightmares and Their Hidden Meanings

Autistic people often experience intense joy. Joy can be related to an external or internal experience. Interests and sensory, social, and emotional triggers can also cause intense joy. Autistic people might experience joy more often and more intensely than most. When I was 17, I realized that my experience of...

Celebrating Autistic Joy

Criticism is damaging because it shifts focus from the issue at hand to the perceived flaws of one's partner. Persistent use of defensiveness only delays addressing problems within the relationship. Contempt conveys to your partner that you consider yourself superior and think very little of them. In 1992, renowned clinical...

The 4 Strongest Predictors of Divorce

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Actor Van Johnson, who died in 2007, was one of Hollywood's ideal films idols. In the 1940s, the charming screen icon was box office gold, and remained a popular presence on TV in shows like Murder, She Wrote (which starred his good friend Angela Lansbury).

The Secret Gay Life & Horrific Car Accident of Actor Van Johnson: 16 Years After His Tragic Death

We should work consciously to counter the shame around aging that we have internalized. While we certainly suffer many painful losses as we age, we also can gain notable gifts. To age with dignity, we need to come to accept our past, present, and future. by Bret Lyon. We all...

We Don't Have to Be Ashamed of Aging

Death anxiety is associated with a variety of mental health disorders. People with physical diseases and disorders can also suffer from extreme death anxiety. At the same time, fear of death can motivate you to achieve your life's goals. Debilitating death anxiety can be treated with therapy and medication. One...

Do You Suffer From Death Anxiety?

Minimizing your feelings or your partner's actions is a lie that can wreak havoc on a relationship. The belief that you can change your partner is a dangerous lie that sets both of you up for disappointment. "We don’t need to talk about that" is one of the most destructive...

The 4 Biggest Lies That Destroy Love

Grit can be learned. Parents and those working with children can teach it. Grit entails working strenuously toward challenges, maintaining effort and interest over time despite failure. Grit may be as important as innate talent for high-level accomplishment. Does your child give up on something after only one try? Does...

11 Commonsense Ways to Raise Gritty Children

Events leading to hospitalization vary from person to person. Psychostimulant use is often a contributing factor. The context is important for understanding the illness. My intention in writing this blog is to share the experiences that I went through with my son, starting with the first manifestation of his illness and our journey through numerous subsequent episodes. Also, my purpose is to provide commentary as a parent and psychiatrist on issues that these experiences bring up, such as how the diagnostic process works in mental health, and how to work with treatment providers and medication issues. My hope is that reading this may be helpful for people with mental health issues and also their families and friends.

Events That Lead to a Mental-Illness ER Visit

Whenever we need to restrain ourselves, a conflict is going on. Identifying both sides of a conflict can help in melting it. Finding ways for our different parts to work hand in hand could be a key to contentment. A few weeks ago, my wife gave me a copy of...

Do You Ever Have to Restrain Yourself?

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Today brings with it a powerful cosmic alignment to the zodiacs. The energy will be delivering waves of opportunity that can be felt by many. For some, this day marks the moment when dreams finally start to come into reality. If you have been hoping for progress, this is the time to tune into the energy of the heavens. However, for Gemini, Libra, and Pisces, the stars are working in their favor at an advantage. The day may start bringing clarity, success, and emotional fulfillment to these signs more easily than on other days. Let's look at the possibilities that this day may bring!

3 Zodiac Signs Whose Dreams Come True | September 6, 2024

Navigating your child’s struggles while maintaining your own well-being can be incredibly challenging. Positive psychology offers valuable strategies that can help you stay connected and grounded. Here are five approaches you might find useful during hard times. I recently spoke with my friend Karen about navigating some of the...

Don't Go Into the Tunnel: The Practice of Loving Detachment

"Not since the American Civil War has there been so much concern that American democracy is under threat.”. In 2022 Black and Asian Americans were most hopeful and white Americans most worried. While hope may have a soothing quality, it's not passive but motivating. In an August 2024 article for...

Hope by the Numbers Is 44

Stopping a compulsive habit may backfire if done wrong. Breaking habits is about relieving underlying motivations. Behavior change is possible with the right process. Almost every client I've worked with has dealt with this problem: They keep trying to change, but each attempt ends either in complete failure or in a simple switch to a new habit or addiction.

Why Breaking Habits the Wrong Way Could Make Them Stronger

Interviews with 121 young adults examined the costs and benefits of technology use in relationships. The most commonly cited benefit was more efficient communication. Ease of communication also created costs, such as impersonal communication and pressure to constantly connect. Privacy concerns were also a commonly cited cost of technology use.

How Do Young Adults Use Technology in Their Relationships?

In a recent post, I discussed social barriers to applying critical thinking. I received interesting feedback on this particular topic and I thought further discussion around this dialogue would be of interest. First and foremost, consider when we should apply critical thinking. As I’ve stated before, it might come as a surprise to readers that someone like me, who places great value on such thought, would suggest that critical thinking doesn’t need to be applied as often as many might think. The reality is that critical thinking is effortful and time-consuming. If we thought critically about every mundane decision we had to make each day, we’d be exhausted before mid-morning. We should only think critically about issues that we care about and that are important to us.

When Critical Thinking Is Not Worth It

Moon trine Jupiter on September 6 brings good luck to three privileged zodiac signs. Many people aspire to have a fortune daily. The Moon’s transition will make things possible for these few signs. Their negative energy will dissipate and they will stop being moody. Jupiter will have a positive influence on them and bring new perspectives. They will accomplish things that other zodiac signs believe are impossible.

3 Zodiac Signs That Good Luck Favors | September 6, 2024

Trust, honesty, respect, communication, effort, and collaboration are the foundation of healthy relationships. Secure, stable, and trusting early relationships instill confidence in future connections. In a healthy relationship, both partners should feel free to be authentic. In the complexity of human relationships, distinguishing between healthy and unhealthy connections can significantly...

The Foundation of Healthy Relationships

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Rational Optimism Across Life's Domains

Just like negativity, blind positivity can be harmful to our mental health. Rational optimism allows us to see potential in adversity while remaining realistic about the...

Rational Optimism Across Life's Domains

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