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Keke Palmer Slams Mom-Shamers Who Use Their ‘Privilege’ To Make Mothers Feel Bad
By Sydni Ellis,
2 days ago
Keke Palmer is tired of moms tearing other moms down. The Bosses star, who shares son Leodis “Leo,” 17 months, with ex Darius Jackson, just opened up about a trend she’s seen where moms give “unsolicited advice” to other mothers from a place of privilege — and she did not hold back about how wrong this is.
“There’s not much I don’t love about being a mother,” the Nope star begins , talking a mile a minute. “Except for the unsolicited advice especially in the social media comments. Because here’s the thing: I’ve seen it on my page, I’ve seen it on other mothers’ pages, and it gets to the point where I don’t even think people realize that there is privilege in what they’re asking.”
Keke Palmer at the Amazon Upfront Presentation held at Pier 36 on May 14, 2024 in New York, New York. (Photo by Stephanie Augello/Variety via Getty Images)
She’s not talking about helpful criticism, like if you notice someone didn’t buckle a child in their car seat safely or something. She’s talking about people who judge moms for their choices, like not breastfeeding or not having the most expensive, highest-rated car seat on the market.
“Every mom can’t breastfeed; every mom doesn’t want to breastfeed,” Palmer said. “Every mom can’t afford formula. Everyone can’t afford the car seat that said it was 555 … Y’all gotta stop with that.” She explained that her parents did the best they could while raising her, and no one should be shamed for that. “I grew up on high sodium … we grew up on Section 8. We were just trying to get by, OK? My mama had to cuss out the private school because they were being racist towards my sister, and we didn’t know what we was gonna do.”
“The point I’m making is, if you want to help somebody, pray for them. Wish ‘em well. Show ‘em some love. Don’t go on their page using some privileged measure of what it takes to be a good mom,” Palmer continued. “‘Cause you know what it really takes to be a good mom is loving your child. So the next time you go on someone’s page and try to tell them what they’re doing wrong, what they need to do better — while your page is private and can’t nobody critique you! — be more demure. Be more mindful.” As a mom, I absolutely love this! Loving your child is the number one important thing, and people who criticize every little choice and decision moms make definitely need to be reminded of this.
In her caption, Palmer emphasized her point again. “Stop scaring the sh*t out of mothers! A nervous anxiety ridden mother is what that encourages instead of genuine community and support on the basis of knowing God holds sovereignty,” she wrote. “If you are doing your best you’re doing enough!!! If you wanna help, be positive. Send a prayer. Be demure. Be Mindful like @joolieanniemarie 💞”
The comments were full of love. “AMEN,” Halle Bailey wrote. SZA said, “I LOVE YOU BITCH !!!” R.H. Sin, New York Times best-selling author, said, “That comment section got people f’d up. I can never understand the desire to use fingers to type up advice or criticism rooted in a low vibration. Show love, support, kindness or shut your ass up lol. Keke, you’re awesome!!!”
“Alllll of this. We all parent differently. More demure PLEASE. I BEG,” someone else wrote. “Keke mother F’in Palmer standing on business speaking facts👏👏👏 I love you!!!!🙌🙌” another wrote.
Palmer isn’t afraid to keep things real with her followers. Last month, she asked for advice after a “playground incident” where her son was pushed left her “torn up.”
“How do we deal with this?” she asked in a video, explaining that while what happened was a “little thing,” it’s “just an example of having a child in the world when the world is not always kind.”
One mom responded in a beautiful way: “You extend grace in hopes that when your son is in the wrong grace is extended towards him!”
Next time you see a mom — or even another child — do something you don’t agree with, the best thing you can do is just be positive and wish ‘em well. And if you can’t do that, then just keep scrolling and move on. Because parenting is hard enough without other moms coming after each other!
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